Love Thyself and Heal the World

We are all mere reflections...when we allow ourselves to shine we help others see through their own darkness and guide them to their light...we must be the change we wish to see the world...we must allow ourselves to shine.

I wish there was a way for me to peel away your layers

and expose you to the love and light that dwells deep within you

so you would know that the light doesn't burn

and that love has nothing to do with pain

so that I can show you that all those layers were just

mountains of fear tricking you into thinking you knew what was best for you

tricking you into thinking the layers were protecting you

I can not peel those layers off for you

but I can expose you to the love and light that dwells deep within you

because I am your perfect reflection...

I will be the love and light that dwells within you so you can know

who and what you truly are

so you can know that the light doesn't burn

and that love has nothing to do with pain

I will reflect so you can seen beneath those layers

I will reflect what is beneath those mountains of fear that is tricking you into thinking you know what is best for you

I will reflect and show you that love is your only true protection
~Lori Marie

Are You Happy?

The reality is, if you can not say you are happy, you are choosing not to be happy.

We all have pain in our life but we all choose how we deal with it. We often blame things on hormones, or our past, or DNA, or something! But none of that really matters because in life we have choices and we CHOOSE to be happy or sad.

When we wake up in the morning we choose to get out of bed or to lay in it and whine how we are tired and do not want to get up and go to work. This often starts our daily ritual to where we dread our day and the things we have to do and in the end we are just plan UNHAPPY. We chose to start our day this way! We chose to lay there and be upset and dwell on how horrible the day was going to be. If you want a change in your life and you want to be happy then you need to be that change! How can you expect to have a good day and have the abundance you desire come to you when you do not even want to get out of bed in the morning?

If we have choices why would you torture yourself with negativity and have a miserable day when you can start it off with a smile?! Maybe if we have choices and we want to have a good day we could instead chose to wake up and say to ourselves, "Yesterday was a hard day but today is going to be different. Today I am going to have a good day because I want to have a good day. I am choosing to have a good day!" So you go about your morning with a smile and a kick in your step and you are off to have a good day!

OH BUT WAIT! Oh no! There is traffic and I'm going to be late to work and some idiot is bound to cut me off and almost make me crash. I don't want to go through that mess. I don't want to deal with Mr. Road Rage today! I don't want to go to work! Guess you just ruined your good day you started off with huh?!

No because this isn't about just starting your day choosing to be happy. The point is you choose everything! You have so much control over your life and you just give it away to misery every time! Why do you do that? If life has you down, if traffic has you down, if work stinks, if your marriage stinks, if you just aren't happy then you need to be responsible for how you feel! You need to take control of how you feel and MAKE yours choices so you are happy. Yes, your choices do have consequences. You may lose something you cherished in order to be happy. But that's when you need to get your scale out and do some weighing. Which is more important to you, your overall happiness and sanity, or the other thing you need to let go of that more then likely has its own lessons to learn and has nothing to do with you.

Basically in life you are not powerless unless you give your power away! You are in complete control of your life and your choices and how you react and feel about things. If you do not like something change it. If you do no like an emotion change it. Its up to you! You have the choice to make! So what do you choose? I choose happy!

Understanding How The Moon Effects Who You Are

As an astrologer I love to see how the planets effect us in life. When we were born the moon, the most nurturing planet in our universe, was in one of its phases and inturn can tell us much about what phase our soul incarneted into this life. After reading about how the moon phases work contact me and I will gladly give you a Natal Moon Phase Reading. It will help you understand what phase you were incarnated into this life and what you are hear to do as well as what phase the moon is in your life at this time. You can contact through http://Emissaryoflight.weebly.com. The power of the moon in our lives should never be underestimated.

The two most fundamental energies in our birth chart are the Sun and the Moon. While
the Sun is the most yang, projective, giving us our sense of individual self and purpose, the
Moon is the most yin, receptive, providing us with the application of our purpose. The Sun
is the light and life of our system. The Moon being the closest heavenly body to us controls
the rhythm of the sea and all its creatures as well as the flow of blood in the human body.
As the Moon distributes the light of the Sun each night, we experience this partnership and
are able to understand their relationship in forming the personality of the human being.

Each night a different amount of light is given off by the Moon according to its changing
relationship with the Sun. Within an approximate twenty-eight day cycle the Moon will have
passed through eight phases, each phase lasting about forty-five degrees or three and a half
days. These phases each have their own unique characteristics which influence all life on the
planet. The first phase is the New Moon at which time no light is emanating from its surface.
Beginning at zero degrees it will have completed its cycle at three hundred and sixty degrees.

One way to describe these phases is to use the analogy of the plant.

At the New Moon the seed is in the ground preparing for germination. It is implanted in
a new beginning.

In the early degrees of the Crescent Phase, the sprout is drawn up from the earth by the
initial impulses of light. During the remaining stages of the Crescent Phase the plant goes
through a strengthening process, mobilizing its energies against the elements of nature.

When the First Quarter comes about, the plant has passed the initial stages of survival
and is now sending down roots. By firmly anchoring its life force, the plant is able to
concentrate its energies in the growth of stems and leaves with the tiny buds appearing by
the beginning of the Gibbous Phase.

During the Gibbous Phase the plant is focusing on the reason for its existence. By ridding
itself of everything superfluous, the culmination of its entire past from its beginning is brought
to the moment of its achievement by coming into bloom.

The phase of the Full Moon is the completion. The work has been done and the
gardener can stand back and assess his efforts. As the Full Moon progresses through its
forty-five degrees the flower becomes the fruit.

The Disseminating phase is the harvest. The purpose of the plant is to now give back to
the earth, to those who brought it into being and to nurture others.

By the time the Third Quarter comes around, the harvest is over, the abundance has
been shared and what is left in the fields begins to decompose. The cycle is beginning to end.

During the Balsamic Phase the seed capsule is buried underground. It is clear that what
was, no longer exists in its original form. This is the time of transition. The light of the Moon
has grown very dim and by the end of this phase will have disappeared into darkness.

When we are born we come in under the influence of one of the Moon's phases. The
degree will pinpoint its intensity.

NEW MOON

When a person is born under the influence of the New Moon it is thought that in terms of
reincarnation, this person has been born into the first incarnation of an eight fold sequence.
This person possesses a quality of spontaneity, thus, planning ahead is not always met with
success. They view life as a grand adventure with unlimited possibilities. Living in the
moment, the past is not important to them. Being born when the Moon sheds no light, they
have come to learn to respond instinctually and to act on intuition. They are able to navigate
without maps and arrive at their destination with time to spare. They are often criticized for
being overly self involved, but there is a need for them to learn about who they are and to
project it into the world.

Initial urge Instinct Projection

CRESCENT

A key word for the Crescent Phase is breakthrough. It is a time when what was begun
during the New Moon is carried forward. It is a time of struggle because it often has to
wrestle with the ghosts of the past which were in effect before the new cycle began. This
new identity needs to overcome old standards, attitudes and structures in order to become
fully functional as a whole and free individual. People born during a Crescent Moon often
find themselves emotionally tied to the past. They may be drawn to habitual behaviors,
wanting to stay within their comfort zones, feeling the need for security. They can be
vulnerable to emotional blackmail, falling victim to those who want to "keep them the way
they are", not supportive of their growth. Crescent Moon types may find it difficult to leave
home until well into adulthood. It is imperative that they establish their life force in
independence. It is important for them to understand that the first step is the hardest, but
that once it is taken new opportunities will open up. Their final challenge is to take those
opportunities and act on them.

Activation Striving Future

FIRST QUARTER

The First Quarter Moon can be referred to as "crisis in action". It is a time in which the
challenge is to manage the energy which is released by crisis and then to restructure it into
its new form. People born during this phase are able to rise to the occasion of any
emergency. They are able to make split second decisions and act on them. They have the
ability to tear down old structures and to recreate new ones. They are the pioneers, the trail
blazers, the hero and the heroine. It is important not to unconsciously create havoc in their
lives just for the sake of excitement even though the crazier it gets, the better they get. It is
likely they will create conflict in the lives of those entrenched in the status quo. You may find
them working in emergency rooms and driving ambulances.

Clearing Action Building

GIBBOUS

Those born during the Gibbous Phase have an innate desire for perfection. Having
sharp, analytical minds, they have a need to understand. Looking at a subject from all
angles, they experience sheer joy when delving into the core of the matter. Bringing things to
the essence of their being, the truth will be revealed. They live their lives in anxious
expectation augmented by the breath of the coming revelation. Children born at this time will
not be happy with the answers, they will want to know why and how the answer came
about. Gibbous Moon people make good apprentices as their goal is to learn all they can
and become as good as they can get.

Perfecting Analysis Interpret

FULL MOON

The Full Moon brings about the completion of all the hard work that came before it. It is
the time in which the structure having attained perfection experiences the urge to become
infused with meaning and purpose, the breath of life. It is time when all that was instinctual
becomes deliberate action, all that was felt before will now be made visible. The ideals are
to be realized, brought forth into the world for all to have. It is the debut. People born under
the Full Moon are idealists. They may spend a lot of time searching for belief systems that
they can relate to. Relationships are important to them and they need to be fully conscious
of the effects their words and actions have on others. It is hard for them to find the ideal
relationship in this material world and they will often turn to religion or an ideal cause. In
looking for the right relationship, one needs to proceed through the clarity of the light of
consciousness and not get caught up in the emotional bog of sheer desire.

Perfection Completion Conscious Illumination

DISSEMINATING

The Disseminating Phase of the Moon is the second phase of conscious operation. That
which came into completion at the Full Moon is ready to be distributed now. People born
during this phase are natural communicators. They are what they believe and their purpose
is to spread it to the world. They share and communicate information acquired from their
own experience. They are the teachers and philosophers. If they have no message to share
they can become despondent. It is their lesson to realize that they are not responsible as to
whether the message is received or not. It is not the role of everyone else to act on what
they say, but it is the role of the person born in the Disseminating Phase to say it. They
make good publicists and reporters as long as they believe in what they are saying.

Imparting Convey Awareness

LAST QUARTER

The key word for the Last Quarter is readjustment. It is the hardest to identify as many
of its characteristics are hidden. As the First Quarter experiences "crisis in action", the Third
Quarter experiences "crisis in consciousness". Old systems and values are becoming
useless. It is hard for people born at this time to relate to life in the here and now. They
often appear to be living in a world of their own, when in actuality they are going through an
internal process of reorientation. They will present to the world an acceptable face as they
are quietly developing on the inside. At the point when their own internal self has been
completed, a brand new, fully developed person emerges. This butterfly is quite different
from the caterpillar it had been, and is quite the surprise to those who thought they "knew"
them. These people need the time and space to find themselves. If pressured to conform,
they may revolt causing others to regard them as uncooperative and rebellious. As children,
they require a lot of "alone" time and may need more rest than others as they process much
in their sleep and in meditative states.

Readjustment Correcting Disillusionment Elimination

BALSAMIC

The Balsamic Phase is the last phase of the Moon's cycle. This is the time of adjustment
from one cycle to another. It is the bridge between the past and the future. People born at
this time are finishing an eight phase cycle of lifetimes. Therefore, this lifetime is a very
karmic one. There is a pattern of very intense, all-consuming although short term
relationships with people from the past including other lifetimes. These karmic ties are in
need of resolution before continuing on into the next new cycle. These people often have
pronounced psychic abilities. They are the visionaries seeing years ahead of their times. As
children they often feel apart from their peers; they are loners. Balsamic Moon people are
able to take the true meaning of a situation, distill it into its wisdom essence and plant it into
the awareness of others. They are the gurus. Their job is the transmission of essential
knowledge which will germinate at the next level during the next Lunation Cycle.

Incubation Preparation Closure Surrender

THE PROGRESSED PHASES

The progressed lunation cycle lasts for approximately twenty-eight years. This is in effect
a macrocosmic illustration of the microcosmic monthly lunar cycle.

During a progressed New Moon people instinctively begin a new phase of their lives.

As in all new beginnings, the Crescent Phase will bring about challenges during the
struggle forward in this new enterprise. Old friends may fall away, while new opportunities
will present themselves, helping them get on with the business at hand. Sometimes they will
feel as though they are moving in blind faith as old values and outmoded systems fall to the
wayside, being replaced by new approaches acquired through inspiration.

The progressed Third Quarter presents a time of action in which the building stage is in
full force. At the onset of this phase, sometimes still without tangible form, one instinctively
forges ahead in a creatively progressive mode, until towards the end of the three and a half
year period there is a sense of being grounded in the process now having something to
work with.

The progressed Gibbous Phase brings about the stage of refinement. The techniques of
the process which was begun is perfected now and fine tuned during this time.

The crucial stage comes with the phase of the progressed Full Moon. It is during this
time that the fruits of ones labor are made obvious. The structure has been built and it is
time to find the meaning, purpose and content of its creation. If one doesn't allow for a
change in the way of operations from here on, the structure usually breaks down, for it is
useless without a purpose. This time usually marks a turning point in ones life in which he
realizes that he must gradually disengage from the way he has been doing things for the next
fifteen years.

During a progressed Disseminating Phase, one is living out ones values accumulated
through the period of growth prior to the progressed Full Moon.

When the progressed Third Quarter comes around feelings of dissatisfaction with the
way things are begin to emerge. Perhaps a lack of interest in a once compatible system of
living. Change is in the air although it is not in ones consciousness as of yet. Things just don't
fit the way they used to and may feel like they are already becoming a part of the past.

The progressed Balsamic Phase is the time when one begins to sense the future and
dedicates themselves to it. It is the transiting ending to all that was. Old issues and loose
ends may come for review. As this phase progresses it becomes a time of enforced
isolationism. One may feel like they are going crazy as it is hard for them to identify with
things in the so called real world. They may think they have made a mistake, that there must
be something wrong with them. Try as they may , they just can't seem to get with the
program. It is at this time that one needs to understand that those things that are no longer
valid or have passed away had a purpose, and that part of the fulfillment of that purpose
was to make way for what is to be born. The Balsamic time is a time of meditation, of inner
searching. It is a time of transition from DOING to BEING. People need to realize that it is
O.K. to do nothing, to become receptive and allowing. People often retire during a
progressed Balsamic Moon and sometimes pass on from physical life.

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Guilt, Sorrow, and Envy

"I shed no tear for thyself but tears of joy and happiness for the ones I love. And if they are so very happy then my tears are streaming with smiles that all their dreams are coming true. One must live life to fullest, make everyday the life they dreamed it to be, and let no other soul impose upon your dreams with guilt, sorrow, or envy." ~ Lori Marie

When I was younger I learned a hard lesson about love. I learned that when you love someone unconditionally you let them go and allow them to follow their dreams. We have no right holding someone back because we will miss them, or love them, or need them financially. No one owes anyone anything when true love is involved. The gift of true love is learned through freedom. When we can let go and allow the ones we love to spread their wings and be who it is they want to be we are showing teaching them how to be unconditional.

There are many examples this plays out in. If a lover has a dream job offer and it will take them far away you have no right to place guilt upon them or to be envious their dreams are unfolding. If you love them you let them follow their dreams. Your best friend chooses to marry the love of their life. This someone happens to be a person you dislike and you feel is bad for them but true unconditional love for your friend is allowing them to go live their life as they chose. As humans we have a great responsibility when we chose to love another. If we truly love them then we must show them by allowing them space and freedom to be the person they feel they truly are. We are not going to agree with everything someone we love does, says, feels, or believes in but we love them anyway.

If we are to evolve as loving beings on this planet we must learn that no one owes anyone anything and that true love is found from a forgiving, open, and unconditional heart. If we are unhappy with our universe we must be the change we wish to see in the world. If we want to be happy we must allow others to follow their own divine plan and love them anyway.

The Enlightened Ones

No one knew what to do...
so they walked...
Soon they came to a beautiful river...
it was just what they needed for their walk was long and hard and they were very thirsty...
as they bent down each scooped water into their hands and began to indulge....
one child looked up and said,"i am blessed for i needed water and here it is and i didn't even ask for it".
Another child added, "and i am blessed for the sun was so hot and harsh and this beautiful river nurtures the most beautiful grand trees and i can nap in the shade".
And the last child said nothing for he was busy starring at his reflection in the water. He was darkened from the sun, dirty from the treacherous walk, and thinned from no water or food...but he smiled...for he knew that at one time he had no answers and did not know what to do...but in his reflection he saw the world come to life. He knew there was nothing he needed to do. He realized there was nothing he needed to ask for. He knew that it did not matter how he looked or how hard his life had been because in his reflection he saw his something he never seen before....everything. He was a part of everything. Nothing was separate from him. He was the trees and the wind, the water and the air, the birds and flowers. He realized none of those things ever asks for anything. None of those things know what to do....they just are...they just do.
The moral of the story is: Be who and what you are. Do not worry about what to do in life for it will naturally unfold in front of you. Know you are provided for and have no need to suffer...and remember you are a perfect reflection of what already is.

What is an Emissary?

I first learned what an Emissary was from the renowned author James Twyman who wrote the book "Emissary of Light". Mr. Twyman explains that for thousands of years Emissaries of Light have prepared the world for this time and their only function has been to keep the doors of heaven open, or to keep the flow of Divine Light conscious and strong.
Before I read this wonderful book, which I highly recommend to everyone, I was already on my path to becoming an emissary and did not consciously realize it. When I was 18 I became a YMCA camp counselor and it was by far one of the best experiences of my life. Our directors encouraged us to be fun counselors and create a camp name for ourselves. I chose the name Heaven. I was enchanted by the feel and love that eminated from the name and felt that since I was someone who always looked at the unknown side of life it fit me perfectly. Little did I know I would grow to be a person so divinely connected and a true emissary of light.
My goal here on this planet is to be the change I wish to see in the world and help each and every person remember who they are and that they too are divinely connected to all that is. In our crazy world we have found ourselves lost and unable to connect to the truly important things. We reach for money, lust, and obsessive cravings and desires which are all big bright illusions of what we are really searching for. So as an emissary of light I am on a mission light many others to spread my wings and soar through the world reaching out and reminding you of who you are and the power that lies within you. If you feel that life has a horrible hold over you and you would like someone to help redirect you feel free to contact me at any time. If you are hesitant, shy, or merely just an observer come back often to my blog space and see if there are any messages that will help guide you deeper within yourself on your path to personal transformation and love.
Peace, Love, and Light
Lori Marie

A Wise Teacher Asks Good Questions

We are all here on this planet merely as catalysts to move each other forward in evolution. We reflect one each others behavior, mannerism, and take on the same morals. If we are catalysts for one another that makes each of us a teacher if we are conscious of it or not. We are role models for everyone we come in contact with and create long domino effects with the littlest things we do like smiling or saying a unpleasant statement. So as humans we have a responsibility we never realized we had before. As humans we are the change we want to see in the world. Our words, actions, and feelings effect more people then the ones we come into immediate contact with so if we have this great power of change and we are all powerful teachers we need to now be wise ones.
Paul Ferrini stated in his book "Love Without Conditions" that a wise teacher asks good questions, but she gives very little advice.
Mr. Ferrini explains, "one who masters the mind is not valued by society. He may be the most powerful being alive, but you will not find him in a position of power. In truth, even if such a position were offered to him, he would not take it. Such a person is not concerned with the manipulation of outer events." He continues by saying, "For him there is only one question 'Are you happy right now.' If the answer is 'yes' then you are already in heaven. If the answer is 'no' then he simply asks 'why not?'.
What Mr. Ferrini is saying is basically no one person outside of yourself is going to give you any advice or teach you anything that you already do not know. So as humans we have a responsibility to one another to ask 'why not' instead of preaching 'why'. We are all going through different things and have different perspectives and we may have a fresh out look we could add to someone else's problems but the best advice we could give is to help the other person go within and find their own answers.
As a healer and Astrologer my goal is to help those who come to me find their own answers. I feel as though I am a catalyst who can see things within you that maybe are not clear to you just yet. My goal is to ask you the right questions and take you within yourself to help untangle the complicated web you have created thus far in life. I do not have your answers but I can see where your issues are tangled and help you untie your knots and find yourself again.
As Mr. Ferrini says, "All the master can do is encourage you to that the responsibility here and now." If you are having trouble going within and standing outside your emotions and current life situations or know someone who does remember the object is to help the other see their own light and find their own solutions we are merely catalysts to help them do so.

The Power of Intent is The Real Secret

If I asked someone 5 years ago if they ever heard of "The Secret" I would more than likely be presented with a very peculiar look followed by a, "what secret?". Thanks to Oprah and some wonderful marketing agents who happened to see the underground video circulating the Myspace posts "The Secret" has become a household name along with the determent of what the secret really is. Once a new age spiritual epiphany for many has now become a popular self help fad. The key word in that statement is fade. Fad's fade away but for those who understood what "The Secret" really is will carry it with them the rest of their life.

The concept of the secret is if someone believes they "will" get a million dollars it will come to them. If I send out to the universe to send me my soul mate before I am 35 then it will happen. If I create a board with all the things I want the universe will know I want them and give them to me. It I believe it will happen it will. Is this true? Yes and No.

Yes, as the bible says, ask and ye shall receive but no it does not mean everything you ask for you will get. Do not let this new self help concept disillusion you like it has so many others. The real secret and the meaning behind the biblical quote are both trying to teach that the power of your thoughts, your true intent, will manifest. Siddhartha Gautama Buddha say, "your thoughts become your reality". Most people are not aware of their true intent. A lot of the time we walk through life living in automatic mode. We automatically wake up and go through our routine and we automatically respond with disgust as people cut us off as we drive. How often have you automatically greeted someone as you passed them but never even really registered in your mind they were there because you were thinking about some other distant thought?
Until we live from a perspective where we are consciously aware of our intent we will not get the things we ask for. We may be going through hard times and decide that if we ask and pray for a big lump sum of money to come our way all our big problems in life will go away. That isn't likely. If you focused your intent in a more refined way you may see some success. Instead you may ask and pray for the solution to your money problems be solved in the healthiest and least painful way possible. What manifest would depend on each person but maybe you figure out a better way to budget your money you never thought of before and suddenly you are saving a lot of money or maybe you get a bonus at work that you didn't expect and it helps relieve you from added anguish.
Intent is easy to control if you are first aware of it. How often have you been in a conversation with someone and not heard one word they were saying because your mind was somewhere else? Have you ever driven all the way home and once you got there realized you don't remember any of the trip? You weren't aware. How can you think that if you say, "I want a new car" your full awareness is in that statement when you can't even remember your drive home?
Intent is in everything we say and do as well as the things we do not say and do. Our actions show our intent, our body language shows our intent, and our thoughts clearly show our intent.

If we are saying yes to something but we really want to say no our intent is sent out in the universe as a very stressed signal and obstacle's are instantly created. On the other hand when you say no and mean it the intent is pure and the signal it send is loud and clear. So lets take what we have learned from "The Secret" and from the Bible and add in what we have learned about intent and try to ask for what it is we feel we need. When we are asking for that million dollar check more than likely our unconscious is really saying will you please help me get out of my financial stress so I can have nice things and go nice places. The statement "send me a million dollars" stems from being stressed over money not "needing a million dollars".

Intent is a very tricky thing and that is why it is such a secret. Most people do not know their true intent is and it remains a secret. If you can become aware, conscious, of what you are really saying, thinking, and feeling then you have mastered "The Secret" and you have the control to make life exactly what you want it to be in accordance to your highest good and your truest self. So if you are amongst the many who try to live like the self help book and movie teaches but find it has yet been able to manifest the things you desire then maybe your intent remains the true secret.

Life Minus Expectations Equals Unconditional Love

In love and life we find ourselves in many different types of relationships. We have friendships, family, co-workers, supervisors, neighbors, lovers, partners, etc. The one thing in common is that within each and everyone of these relationships we have likes and dislikes. But the one thing that determines this common aspect is "expectations". What would happen to our relationships if we eliminated expectations all together? If we had no expectations of the people we have relationships with we would never have pain or disappointment.

In our minds we have created an unconscious set of expectations that we place on all humans be it if we are in a relationship with them or not. If we eliminated those expectations and had compassion for people as they are we would never experience disappointment in them. If we have no expectations of others we have take the first step to understanding unconditional love. The key to bringing happiness, joy, and love into our lives and experiencing it at every moment of every day is as easy as eliminating the expectations you hold on other people.

In our daily lives we become easily frustrated and angry at the way people drive when we are out on the roads. Why do we do feel this way? We already know that not everyone is a good driver, we already know some drivers are very inconsiderate, and we already know that there will be at the very minimum at least one accident a day on our city streets. So why do we have the expectation that when we go out and drive that every person needs to be a perfect driver? Yes it is important to be safe because lives are at risk everyday but we already know it as a fact that everyone isn't a good driver, and not all drivers are considerate, and that there are accidents everyday. If we want to make our driving experience less stressful and remain happier people we need to stop expecting that every person on the road be a perfect driver because it just isn't reality.

Children are not perfect and do things to upset us all the time. When they get bad grades we still kiss them and tuck them in at night and make them feel safe. We understand that they are children and they are not perfect and we love them anyway. Our pets and animals do not speak the same language as use and often anger us and frustrate us because they did not listen to our rules or they ruined something that belonged to us. When we see them at the end of the day we still love them and feed them and understand that they are animals and meant no real harm.

So why can't we have this understanding with every other relationship in the world? Why can't we understand that the clerk at the grocery store is a human too and that she may be having a bad day because her boss was rude to her, and her boss may have had someone cut them off on the road right before they got to work? Why can't we understand that our husband, girlfriend, mother, or neighbor are human and make mistakes too? Why do we place such great expectations on people to be something they are not? People are not perfect and always kind. People get crabby when they are mistreated or disrespected. People have bad days they have the right to be upset. So why do we have such high expectations?

When we are single and out looking for a mate do you find yourself turning someone away because they do not fit one of your expectations. Maybe you think men should always open the door for you, or maybe you think if a woman is dressed a certain way she isn't good enough to be your partner? It is all because of expectations and all expectations do are make you unhappy!

Imagine life for one hour out of our day where you had no expectations of anyone! If you are able to envision this you should be able to feel great happiness all around you. If you can eliminate expectations you can begin to understand how to have compassion for other humans in life and you are able to experience the true miracle of unconditional love. Unconditional love does not exist in a life of expectations so take some time to recognize when expectations begin to control you and release them for a much more pleasant experience in life true unconditional love.