Thursday, October 31, 2013

Fear Not What You Can Never Accomplish

Let's begin by defining the word "perfection". According to the Merimman-Webster Dictionary perfection is defined as something that cannot be improved. As humans we have no need to ever feel as though we are not good enough, because we never will be. Humans are imperfect beings who are perfect  at only being imperfect. How is it we go through life thinking we are not good enough when in reality we are already perfect the way we are? If we were perfect there would be no need for us to be incarnated at this time on this very imperfect planet. We have much to learn and we will never reach perfection here and now. If we were to be so blessed as to reach the state of perfection it is more than likely we would exit this life and move into a realm where we could continue to exist so purely. If we know that we live in am imperfect world and we know we will never be perfect why are we so hard on ourselves when we do not meet these or others standards? These are questions you should be asking yourself. When you do not meet the expectations of another why is it you feel so low? When another does not meet your expectations why is it you feel so low? When we are disappointed, because either ourselves or someone else who did not meet the standards and expectations set by another, how do we stop the vicious cycle. We have already concluded that we are not perfect and no one else will ever be perfect, but we do have a quality of life, standards, and expectations that we want to meet and others to meet as well. Right? What if you do not pass your class with a high grade? What is the outcome? Do you think you wasted your time? The answer would be no even if you really feel  you did. You did not waste your time because you learned something and you are human and humans make painful mistakes in order to learn. What did you learn? Well maybe you learned that the topic you were studying is challenging and you need extra help understanding it, or maybe you learned that your free time was more important and you need to be more committed if a high grade is what you are desiring. All in all you learned something and have the opportunity to do it over. The same goes for your job. Your boss called you in because you have not been meeting his or her standards. How do you feel? Do you deserve to feel this way? Yes because they are right you are not doing what you should be in order to achieve the goals you agreed upon for the position. What was the outcome? You learned if you want this job you need to work harder in meeting their standards. Oh wait, no what they are saying is not fair. You have been working your ass off and you do not deserve to be made to feel low. In this case you have a choice. A, you can leave the company and work for someone who appreciats you, or B, you can feel bad about yourselves because you just weren't good enough and continue to work for people who choose to abuse your hard work. All in all you learned something and you have the opportunity to do it over or move on.
Another way to look at perfection is taking expectations out of the equation. If one does not have expectations there is no room for disappointment or feeling low. If one does not have expectations then the word perfection does not even need to exist because there will be nothing being measured good or bad. The easiest way to solve the problem of feeling "not perfect or good enough" is to take away all forms of expectations and you have completely eliminated the problem. Now for time being you and I both know that our world runs on goals and striving for something better. If that is the way our society is going to work there will always be guidelines, standards, and expectations to be met. So if our world is going to continue to run this way may we are damned if we do and damned if we don't, or maybe we could change our perspective and remind ourselves we are human and are not perfect. We are human and all in all we learned something and we have the opportunity to do it over or move on. There truly is no reason to not feel good enough! We never will be we will only be as good as we are and if that is not good enough for someone else then we have a choice. We always have a choice.
So the next time you feel low and not good enough remember! YOU ARE HUMAN and you will never be perfect because you already are.

Thursday, October 17, 2013

Fate or Free Will Equals Destiny?

I thought I had it figured out. When I was in my early 20's I began wondering if we had free will or if things unfolded were predestined. I came to the conclusion if my personal philosophy that "everything happens for a reason" were true then things must be predestined. That is until recently as I began to watch the Syfy channels series "Continuum". The series is based on a cop from the year 2077 who is sent back in time along with 7 terrorists who killed millions. The whole story line has not completely unfolded as of yet due to the fact that I am watching the first season on Netflix and I am still trying to figure things out, but it leaves me scratching my head once again. So does fate or free will determine our destiny? When I choose one job over another does that change the path of my life? If I make the most minuet decision will that alter the end for me? From what the TV series is saying thus far, you can certainly change your future, but what if you choose a different path way and still end up in the same place? Maybe we don't have a choice how our life will end up but have a choice on how we get there. If I was tragically taken back into the past, and it would be tragic because I would hate to go through life all over again, knowing what I know now would I do everything the same? I wouldn't want to have to make that decision! It would be hard, when faced with some of my mistakes, not to naturally correct them so the outcome is different. I mean shoot, I already learned the lesson why would I want to go through the pain again? But if I changed what I did maybe my life as I know it to become would be actually change?! That would be horrible because maybe the people who I love dearly would no longer be a part of my life, for example my adopted daughter. But what if I am destined to have that loving bond with her! What if I change things and I still end up being able to adopt her? Or, maybe, it's not about our choices but about how we experience life as we make our choices. Let's say I decided to do things differently and I do not adopt my daughter but she still ends up in my life. One way or another we were still destined to be together because in the end the love for one another was destined to happen.
In conclusion, I currently feel as if we have free will on what path we take but in the end our destiny is the same. We will be faced with fateful events and we can choose to react to them in anyway we want but those fateful events will always lead us to the same destiny. With that saying do we choose the hard road and fight against the things that we do not like, or do we take the easy road and do as we are told? Either way our destiny is the same. Maybe we do not need as much pain in our life as we allow because fate, freewill, and destiny all exist together as one with neither of them contradicting the other but instead working together to teach our soul its purpose. What is that you ask? I think it is to remember who and what we truly are and I believe what we are is One....Love.
***This article is subject to change! Because we should never hold on to any one belief so tight that we are not open enough to another more befitting possibility!