Everyone See's Things Their Own Way....

It can pose as a problem, being an individual that is. We are in a dimension of time where as humans we live from the Ego Perspective. It's where we are supposed to be on the evolutionary scale it's all part of the divine plan, but because everyone "see's" things their own way no one can truly "see" where another person is coming from. When we experience things in life we relate to them and see them from a perspective that best fits with how we emotionally deal with things. No one else feels, sees, tastes, or experiences the same exact thing therefore it is impossible to truly see things as another does. We can share like experiences and we can have similar problems, but if we are choosing to be here now in this Ego oriented dimension then we must also take full responsibility for every single thing that happens in our life. If we are going to choose to see things how we see them, then we must also choose to take responsibility for that perspective and not blame things on others. Another person can not be responsible for making you angry. You are choosing to be angry. Just as you choose to be happy when someone hugs you. Another person can not be responsible for you being angry about tragic world events because you choose to see those tragic world events from the perspective of anger when you have the capability to see it from any possible angle. If we are going to live in this dimension and grow from it we must at the very least figure out how things work. It seems to me to be pretty obvious that our life is what we make of it. We may not directly plan for things to happen the way they happen, but we do directly choose which direction we are going to take once that thing has happened. From here on out there is no need to say "why can't you see it from my perspective for a change?" or "if you could just see it my way everything would make sense" because it is never going to happen. Instead, when you see the situation arise where you become angry, sad, or even happy stop and be aware of where that choice is taking you. Are you blaming or giving credit to someone else? Why? You are choosing how to deal, see, and perceive the moment no one else is. Everyone else is dealing with their own Ego's they don't have time nor the awareness to take on the responsibility for your perspective too. In the end we are who we are, we are our Ego, so merely become aware of it and many of your life long questions of "why?" are easily answered.

Infinite Love? Where is it hiding then?

If there is infinite love available to us all then why do we spend our life searching for it? As humans we go to great lengths to find love! We search the bars, the internet, the grocery store, and some have even began going to church in hopes to find love. How many of you have heard the saying, "you can not love another unless you learn to love yourself first". There is a lot of validity to this saying but I know most people feel they do love themselves and just want someone there to share it with in life. Love is infinite and always available to you because all the love you need is inside you. If you can not love your flaws, if you can not turn off the tapes that play those conditioned messages in your head when you do not live up to your own standards, how do you expect to find love anywhere else? If you want to stop searching for love then you need to literally hug yourself. The next time you pass a mirror and do not want to look in it because you don't want to see your flaws then stop and stare at yourself in that mirror real hard! Don't walk away from it until you are able to fully smile at yourself and love what you see. Love is not on the internet or at Joe's Corner down the street. Love is with you all the time and its always available, its infinite. I'm sure your thinking its much easier said than done, but once you bite down and do it you will be pleasantly surprised at not only how easy it was but how much love you immediately attract into your life. Reach for infinite love, the sooner the better, because as soon as you begin to shine from the inside out others will too!

The Only True Language Has No Words....

Language has no true validity in the world. Language is purely developed upon pictures and images created in ones mind to help relay that message to another. The problem with this is that as humans, who choose to be individuals and not one consciousness, we perceive these forms of communication according to our own perception of images, pictures, and past memories and emotions. Words are too ambiguous the only true language has no words and is purely communicated on pure instincts and emotions. As humans who are choosing to live against our true nature we therefore have a much greater responsibility in the way we choose to communicate. If we are going to choose to be individuals, think our own way, live our own lives, and perceive things purely our own way than we must live authentic lives. It does not matter what words you say it will be perceived based upon the intent you send with it. You may say, "yes honey you look beautiful today" and your wife will perceive it the way she chooses. But if you were to go to your wife and hold her she would feel beautiful no matter how she looked and you never needed to speak a word.
Our world's consciousness is evolving very rapidly. Eventually, maybe not in our life time, we will be at a place where words are not used. For right now, as an ego driven society, we must choose our words to match our intent if we wish to live happier healthier lives. Try it. For just a day or two try to match your words with what you are really thinking. It definitely is not easy and it may even ruffle some feathers, but you will feel much more alive and real for saying what you really mean.

No Matter How Much You Care Some People Just Do Not Care Back....

Reality is no matter how much you love, care, or have feelings for someone not everyone is going to care back. So do you stop loving them? No. If anything you love them more for being true to who they are. You can not make anyone love you or care for you that does not choose to but there is no reason for you to cut yourself off from how you really feel either. The more authentic we are in life the more enriched our life is. Personally I have family members in my life who have chosen, for their own reasons unbeknownst to me, not to love or care back. I am at a stage in my life where I am adopting a baby into my family and as much as I desire to reach out and share her with them I refuse to do so. I can not make someone want to be a part of my life that chooses not to be. If the day comes when they decide their feelings have changed or they are ready to move past whatever it was they were feeling at that point my door is still wide open. I will not stop caring, I will not stop loving, but I will respect them and realize they are exactly where they need to be and I will leave them be. In life we can not push ourselves upon other people. We so often hear about stalkers and the horrible lengths they go to push someone to be a part of their life that does not want to be there. The same goes for family or anyone else you may know. Life deals ups hands and we have a choice to cheat the hand we are given to get the outcome we desire or play with the hand we have and understand that we do not always win. When you choose to cheat you are choosing to invite unwanted drama and other painful experiences into your life. If you take anything away from this blog today take this, "Some people do not care back....and it's not the end of your world".
Go about your day with love!

This post was inspired by the post below by an unknown author.

Who Are You?

When we are young we are our parent's children. Once we get to be teens we think we are our own independent self. As we reach adulthood we begin to search for ourselves and go out into the world to become somebody. So, who are you? Are you a republican because you were raised as one? Are you a Christian Baptist because you fell upon hard times and it showed you some light? Are you a single dad who works two jobs? Are you an addict? A sports enthusiast? A gossip? A best friend? A brother or sister? A liar? A thief? A humanitarian?
Who are you?
If you think you are a label then you might as well generalize and say "you" are "ego". When you are ready to know who you truly are you will begin to see that it has nothing to do with labels, the job you hold, the struggles you have, your flaws, your achievements, your nationality, your religion, or what you lack as a person. As you really begin to look for yourself you will clearly see you are existence, the universe, God, the divine, the stars and heavens, everything! Stop thinking literal and go deep within and feel the natural connection we have to all that is.
Have you ever walked outside after being cooped up indoors for a long period of time and taken a deep breath and felt instantly refreshed? Why do you think that is? What do you think was happening? Have you ever smelled fresh cut grass and felt an immense sense of cleanliness, or what about when it rains, or you get out of the pool? How do you feel what do you sense? Do you think "I am a single dad" when you smell fresh cut grass? Do you think I am a liar when you feel the breeze blow through your hair on a hike through the forest? Of course not! It's something else. It's something that has no words. It's a feeling. A connection. It gives you a sense of connection and a peace that feels welcoming like home. You feel this way because for that one split second you are reminded of who you really are!
So, now do you know who you are?

12-21-2012 Just Another Day On The Calendar?

So as we are reading this we are well aware that the world did not end. I am sure this has been written, stated, and joked about a lot lately but is December 21, 2012 just another day on the calendar? Yes and No. For myself, I will go about my day like I would any other day. I have to run errands and take my kids to practice but to me today is definitely not just another day on the calendar. To me today is the beginning of something new and grand. It's a shift in my own personal awareness. It is sort of like a new year resolution except its more of a new consciousness resolution. I feel as thought in myself and in the world we are having a sort of awakening. Have you not noticed the intense life altering situations that have been happening in the world? Children being killed at school all over the world, kids taking guns to school more than ever before, people sort of doing things that are hurting us as a planet! Is it the media buffing things up? Have these things always happened and they are just amplified now. Probably, but I think it is because we are looking through new eyes and a new awareness. We are changing and it is for the better. As these horrific things take place on our planet we are finally standing up and doing something about it. As a planet we are evolving. It is inevitable. We can not stay the same forever. Just by you reading this and many other blogs and post similar to it is showing that we are thinking and speaking differently. For some all the drama may be annoying. You may be tired of reading about all the bad things and just want it to go away. Then make it go away! Shut the tv off and go outside! Take your kids to the park or on hike! Go through your closets, garages, and toy boxes and give all the things you do not need away to those in your own community who need it! Turn the media off and go about life by making a difference in your own and others. Today is just another day on the calendar but it can also be so very much more! You have a power that is more grand than you can imagine how are you going to use it? Are you going to be the one creating the horrific chaos in our world forcing others to change or are you going to be the one changing?! Today my consciousness shifts and I mark my calendar as the day I look at life in a more loving way. How about you?

Searching For Peace On Earth...

While searching for peace on Earth a new light has been shed. We aren't going to find it walking around our planet. If asked, "if you could make one wish" you will often hear peace on Earth. Is it possible? Maybe. In all likelihood though the reason our planet will not be a peaceful one in our lifetime is very simple. We live in a world where our minds have the freedom of perception.  You might think that perception isn't freedom. Most of us are conditioned in life and therefore perceive things due to our experiences. Perception is free though. If you have a thought or way of thinking that is not in alignment with what you wish all you have to do is change it. You can look at a picture one day and a year later it will look so very different, but it is also possible to look deep within that picture and recapture how you used to perceive it. Perception is free will. Free will is a great power. Free will is the greatest of responsibilities. So if we have the power of choosing how we perceive life and the world every person will always look at it differently. How is it possible to have a peaceful planet when each person has the power to look at it and therefore react to it in the way they choose? Some people believe that one day this planet will all be one consciousness, one perception. It has been said there are tribes who all share one consciousness, a collective consciousness. Is that what it will take for us to have peace on Earth? Probably. Is it likely? Probably not.

We live in a reality where there is darkness and light. The darkness represents evil, the devil, or demons and the light represents the god like energy, the divine, Jesus, or another religious God. If we have peace on Earth we will have reached the end. Once there is only light you will not see light because you have no darkness to define it. You can not have one without the other. This is why we will not have peace on Earth. We need the darkness to show us the light. We need evil to make us want good. We have lessons to learn that we will only learn by seeing the darkness. This is where the true meaning of compassion comes to play. Compassion means to have the deep awareness of the suffering of another without the need to relieve it, feeling total appreciation for its value; a state of non-judgement. We have to allow things to unfold as they do. We have to see the suffering and know it was needed. No one said compassion was easy. People think compassion is feeling the pain of others and needing to relieve it. That is not it at all. We do not need to feel the pain of others and we do not need to feel the pains of the Earth. If we are peaceful we can create peace in and all around us but we can not force it upon others because they have free will too and they have their own lessons to learn. We can only be the change we wish to see in the world. There is no wrong answers in life and there is no right answers. Things just are as they are.

Last night I was watching the news with my five year old foster son and a segment came on about how a mother left her daughter at a caregivers on Thanksgiving and never came back and now the two year old daughter was dead. The man in the home stomped on her abdomen and she curled up and stayed that way and was dead by the next morning. My foster son was very disturbed by this and he told my partner what happened and she too was very disturbed by this. She said, "I love God and all but how could he let this happen?" I felt the pain for the child. I felt it deep. I wanted to cry and I wanted to cry that my foster son had to see it being he too was so young but I understand at a deeper level that it is all part of the divine plan. We have the freedom to perceive it as evil and horrible to do that to a defenseless child, but because the man who did it had the responsibility of free will, as we all do, he choose to use it in darkness. We saw his darkness and we prayed for light. We turned to the light. Everyone who heard about the horrible incident had their own perception of it. Some will choose to change others will choose to do the same. It is inevitable. In the state of consciousness our planet is in free will allows us to have the personal choice of peacefulness or not therefore peace on Earth can not happen until we are one collective consciousness and our world shifts to a level unfathomable by our current mind.

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UPDATE: This morning when I wrote this blog I had no idea only an hour prior to my post a gunman took the lives of many innocent children and adults at an elementary school in Connecticut  As hard as it may be take the anger toward the gunman and instead have compassion for what has happened and in turn use your energy for the good and send these families all the love you can possibly muster!!! They, and the children who witnessed this incident, have to move on after the unthinkable. These people need our love not our hatred! Instead of being angry we must have compassion and move forward in love! We must be the peacefulness we seek and we must shed this peace upon all those effected by this tragedy!