Sunday, November 8, 2015

Knock on the Sky and Listen to the Sound...


"Knock on the sky and listen to the sound!"
~Zen Saying

All of existence on this planet has one fluent language and it has nothing to do with words and everything to do with energy and intent. When trying to relate to what this means we can look to how nature reflects in our lives. Everything has its own nature; humans, animals, plants, weather, even the world of the unseen. Ones nature has nothing to do with words. Nature is what is innate within us and is expressed naturally. As humans we are emotional beings with an ego that provides us with a sense of individuality and the need to express and create that individuality. It is in our nature to be complex beings but it is also within our nature to search for understand and truth. As time has evolved our complexity has grown and being able to find truth has become much more challenging. It is only when we look within and reflect on other forms of existence that does, who do not exist from an ego perspective, that we can find our answers. Nature is a prefect example. If we are a species that wishes to survive and not destroy the planet and all existence it is our responsibility to return to nature and observe how it communicated without words. I can give you many examples such as how the wind blows the flowers and spreads it seeds to grow, or how ants and birds use no words but still come together to accomplish great feats. If these small beings are able to do such grand things within their species how do they do it if they do not talk to one another? When reflecting on communication do we truly need to talk to one another in order to exist as a species? No we do not but it adds to our complexity and our egos individuality. Instead we already use the power of no words to untangle the complexity of the ego and express our true inner feelings when our ego does not feel threatened. One example is when we hug someone. Think about when you were a child and you ran to your mother and jumped in her arms and hugged her. How did that feel? It may be hard to remember but there was an intense emotion or energy that sprang intensely from your heart and engulf your mother in a way that no words could ever truly explain. When we make love to someone we have feelings for we are communicating how we truly feel without any words. Have you ever felt someone you have deep feelings for as if they are sitting in right next to you but they are really hundreds of miles away? How is that possible? Are they feeling you too? More than likely the answer is yes. When your mind gets involved and you being to think too much then communication gets muffled and changes, but when we turn our minds off and feel from our heart center we are speaking from our heart and this is the purest form of communication. How do our dogs communicate their loyalty to us? Yes they lay next to us and follow everywhere including the bathroom when usually this is our own private time, but these actions are not words these actions are pure energy communicating to our heart center from theirs. Our pets are speaking to us with no words. We know they love us we can feel it, we know it. It is no different with people. We know when someone loves us even if their actions say otherwise. We know that on some level their actions are their minds way of over thinking and sending out misguided communication. These actions are not how they really feel these actions are merely love covered in fear. How do we know this? We know this because real communication has no words.
Now that we know that we are already communicating with no words how do we use it to make our lives easier and less complex? We do it by thinking less and feeling more. It is important to use our minds but if we can teach ourselves how to use our minds in conjunction with our heart we will have perfect balance and be able to manifest anything in our lives. If we master speaking from our hearts we have the power to truly understand and live a full and happy life. How do we do it? There are some simple things you can do such as sitting quietly and sending love to people, your animals, nature, the world, or even the entire universe. If we all did this the abundance of love on this planet would eventually out weigh the destruction and cold hearts. If we all practiced sending out love from our heart fear would be almost non-existent. Soon we would realize that our actions were heart centered too and eventually the domino effect will spill over to our children, neighbors, coworkers, even strangers! Communicating with no words is something you probably already do often. Making it a conscious part of our lives is a powerful transforming goal to have!
I am writing this blog post with words but my intent is coming purely from my heart. I will gain nothing from this post except the fact that my heart was able to express itself with pure intent, the intent to spread more love in the world by helping others realize there are many many ways to communicate from the heart without using a single word.

Ways to communicate from the heart:
-Do something kind without needing to be thanked or acknowledge
-Send love to strangers
-Hug someone in need
-Go out of your way to do something for someone else even if you "think" they don't deserve it
-Care for an animal
-Spend time in nature
-Sit quietly and send out love
-Write about things that make others feel good
-Create art
-Give others freedom
-Look at someone endearingly
-Hug and kiss someone
-Hold hands
-Random acts of kindness

Please share your ways you speak with your heart and communicate with no words....

Saturday, October 17, 2015

Do not feel sorry for FAKE people....


"You don't have to be perfect. Just be real."  - Sonia Choquette:

In all my years of life experience I have come to the conclusion that no matter what you do, where you go, or how nice you are not everyone is going to like you nor should you want them to. If you can carry yourself in confidence and not let the shallow or jaded bring you down you are leading the path for others to follow in the light of your path. It is important that if we want a world of more happy and peaceful people that we be our authentic self and not care what others think, say, or how they treat us. If there are people in your life who look down upon you then pray for them to grow and heal the place within them that is cold and sad. If you have people around you who are jealous or intend you emotional or physical harm, then know you are just the punching bag for their inner pain they are needing to release. When you have become their target do not return the punches it will not do you or them any good. Do not waste your energy feeling sorry for them that will only add to the negativity. Instead, ask that their anger or sadness be healed and returned to them with love and guidance, and then go about being who you are! Do not let other's pain shake your inner happiness. No one has to live your life but you and if you want to be happy then be happy!
As you move through the steps of releasing other peoples negative intentions you will notice that those people either fall away and out of your life, or change and adapt to who you are. If you are in an unhealthy relationship, no matter they type, do not fear that person no longer being out in your life just because you choose to be happy and they choose to be sad. Instead, know that if they are truly meant to be in your life they will either change and remain a part of your life, or they will fall away. It may be painful to see someone who has always been a part of your life suddenly gone but in the long run you will be happy and your life will be that much richer. The more happy people we have in the world the lighter the world will be.
Today my inner confidence was challenged when someone I care for used words of shallow intent. At first I was very angry and I quickly released it realizing that I was letting that person's inner pain affect me emotionally. I reminded myself of my healthy boundaries and calmed myself down. Once I was focused and able to reflect from a healthier state of mind I release the negativity to the universe and asked it to be healed and sent back to that person with love and guidance. I have no anger for them I have faith that as they throw their sharp arrows my way I will send them back with love and healing so that they may grow and shine brighter too.
So I end this blog tonight by sending out an abundance of positive vibes to you ALL! I ask the universe to send healing love and light to your inner sadness and pray you are self confident enough to release the negativity to the universe to be healed and returned with love and guidance.
Peace to you ALL <3 p="">

Wednesday, October 14, 2015

You know...

There is no question that you do not have the answer for...

If you can sit still...ask your question...and listen to your heart and not your mind...
Be open to whatever the answer may be even if it is not what you want to hear....
You are in "the know" zone...

Try it...start off by asking things you clearly know truth to...
Sit still...ask your question...and listen to your heart and not your mind...
Be open to whatever the answer may be even if it is not what you want to hear....
How did that answer feel?

Now try it with something you sort of know the answer too and maybe you need to be more open to receiving the truth to...
sit still...ask your question...and listen to your heart and not your mind...
Be open to whatever the answer may be even if it is not what you want to hear....
How did that feel? Was it hard? Try reassuring your heart and saying to it "you know" and then feel your heart center open up and literally speak to you...

It may take practice but if you can shut off the words from your mind and open your heart to whatever answers need to come through...you can truly experience what it feels like to "know"!


Friday, October 9, 2015

Seek and you will find...

If you want answers why do you go about your day in a deep sleep...
you wonder why this or that happens yet you do nothing to search out why...
you notice things aren't ordinary yet you do not question why...
why do you choose to stay asleep...its much more painful...

Why do we have dreams when we sleep? Why do we feel like we know someone we just met?
Why does religion feel right yet so very wrong? We know war and killing is bad yet we continue to do it? Why do we listen to those in authority and go along with it even if it feels wrong? Nature feels so good yet we never go out in it. Animals are pure and innocent yet we never talk to them.

Don't you wonder at all why we are so disconnected? Don't you want to turn your phone off at all and go outside and feel real? Don't you want everyone to just love and accept you for who you are? They can if you only pay attention to the ones who do....tune out the ones who do not...and gravitate towards love....like nature, animals, and children do....

If you believe that our thoughts create our reality...if you believe that it is important to keep your thoughts positive to lead a happy life...then why aren't you happy? Why do you choose to stay asleep....why do you choose pain over relief? Do you think you deserve it? No? Then choose different...make the change...it may feel uncomfortable for a minute but in the end you will be free...feel free...and living authentically....if you never find the answers at least find yourself....at least be happy and be free....be you...and when you are comfortable being you...step out of that place and ask all your questions...because the closer you are to yourself the easier the answers come...

Know thyself heal the world....seek and YOU WILL FIND!!! Ask and YOU WILL RECEIVE!!! If you believe it is shall be! You think it and it is! This is your reality this is your human experience what are you going to do with it? Live in pain, or find peace?

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Thursday, October 8, 2015

Once upon a time...True Story




Once upon a time in a land not of this Earth lived two souls who wandered through the darkness in search of something more...
The held each others hand and felt comfort in their journeys but never felt quite complete until the day they let go and went separate ways...
One soul went to Earth to live a human experience...
The other soul went to a distant star where beings of light welcomed the soul with loving arms...
The soul on Earth felt alone but embraced the adventure...
The soul who lived on the new star home always wondered what happened to the other but knew they were closer apart than they would ever be together...
apart they experienced so much more...apart they could close their eyes and feel the light between them...apart they had true authentic communication that never existed when they were side by side holding hands...apart they knew who they were...they understood what it meant to be together as one...
Once upon a time two souls became one....

You really did choose this...




You are a soul having a human experience...
you really did choose to come at this time and go through the experiences your having right now...
you think you are alone but its the furthest from the truth...
you are surrounded by light beings that want to do nothing more than remind you of who you are so you can bring more light to this Earthly plane...
all you have to do is remember who you are...
all you have to do is say I feel you there will you please guide me...
all you have to do is ask and the answers will be shown to you...
our minds make this earthly experience ten times more complicated than it is...
our hearts truly do know whats best for us...
words, karma, and our minds get in the way of true communication and unity of us all...
we are one but we are experiencing things through the ego as individuals...
the wake up call is happening all around you...
light is coming to Earth faster and faster every day...
our world and realities are shifting and its forcing you to wake up...
here are some examples...
one...you are reading this post....you're waking up!
two...you see number patterns such as 11:11, 9:11, or any other sort of patterns constantly...
coincidences keep happening...
you feel like someone is in the room with you...
de ja vues happen more frequently...
your dreams are more and more real....
you are actually interested in things like astrology, crystals, and tarot and they never even crossed your mind before...
you believe in angels and talk to them....you have felt a loved one who has passed away in your presence....
sacred geometry is intriguing to you and you don' know why...
you believe your thoughts change your reality...
there are soooooo many more things happening around us at an alarming rate trying to shake you awake...trying to get you to stop "sheeping"....
as we being to realize their is so much more going on than our conditioned experience and we begin to open our hearts life will being to dramatically change so much faster....
more than likely we won't be enlightened over night....
but we will start to lift the veils off our eyes and bring more light to this world and make our human experience and others human experience that much happier...
Earth does not have to be a dark and scary place...
Being human does not have to be painful...
we chose to come here and experience emotions knowing we were going to forget who we really are....believing we could still do our jobs as light beings to help this beautiful planet...
if we are going to make this experience worth while then we need to get our heads out of the programmed sheep sleep and wake up...and be who we know we are....pure love...pure light...
We really did choose to be here at this time...
most of us do have karma to deal with...
but as we deal with it we let it go...and as we let it go we may feel pain but in the long run we will be happier....
we have the power to make this human experience "whatever" we want it to be....
we are not destined to be in pain...we may feel we deserve it for whatever reason...but that is a conditioned response and it is not true...
we are loving....all of us...each and everyone one of us....we are not who we "think" we are...
we are who we "feel" we are....
tomorrow is a new day...keep your heart wide open....because things truly are being to change....do you feel it?!
It's time to wake up!



Monday, May 18, 2015

What's the Meaning of Life?

"Some think we are here in this life to work, sleep, watch tv and do what we can to get through the day sanely...but others know they are here for so much more and therefore tune out the petty stuff and get right to spreadin' the love." ~Lori Marie
 So tell me how your last few days went. No wait, let me guess. You woke up, took a shower, rushed out the door to work, forgot to eat, growled at the cars in traffic, arrived to work irritated, got on the phones and made other peoples day just as irritated, ate lunch from a vending machine at your desk, had customers scream at you all day, stopped at McDonald's on your way home and ate way more than you anticipate, laid on the couch drained, texted friends, went on facebook, and fell asleep watching a netflix series...only to wake up and do it all over again. Oh no? You have kids....so the scenario is slightly altered being you had added responsibilities in there and they lost out on things too....all while showing your child by example how to live their life...they are only our future. You paid your bills, you spent too much on things you don't need, you went out and partied too hard and wasted your money to only have a headache, and you got in fights with anyone who crossed you. Wow, life must be really meaningful for you....but its all you know.
I am not going to sit here and judge those who can relate to the lives I have described above...that would be shallow and heartless. Instead I am going to take the time to hopefully enlighten you and help you realize that there is much more to life then why Kylie Jenner suddenly has fat lips or if you bought the latest fashion trends. Maybe you are one of those people who gets into relationship after relationship and can never seem to make it work yet don't know how to be alone. Can you take a few seconds and allow yourself to look below the surface and tell me if you truly believe that the meaning of life is who you are married to or how much money you have in the bank? Does the meaning of life have anything to do with the youtube videos and facebook posts you have been reading all day? Do you think you are truly here to make money, go on vacations, and be so wealthy you have nothing to worry about? Can you tell me then what is the meaning of life?
Not a single thing listed above that is for sure. If life is all about getting high or drunk, finding ways to escape reality, and being so wealthy we have nothing to worry about then way are we even here....all we are trying to do is escape here and find a better here. When you want something outside yourself it is because you don't like what is inside yourself and if you don't like whats inside yourself then why are you even here? Why live? Why go on? There is no point there is only pain. Oh wait you don't want the pain....so you escape it instead of fixing the problem. The problem is you don't understand the the meaning of life is merely loving yourself. We are here to learn to love ourselves and then shine so bright that the love spills over and others feel the love too! Sometimes the love is so great it is a ripple effect and others begin to realize what they have been missing and begin to understand what love is.
I don't know about you but I believe that the meaning of my life is to understand what love is, find it within me, and then love every little thing about life...the good, the bad, and the ugly....because it is all a part of me. You are a part of me...I may not think your choices are meaningful in my opinion but I can still share the light with you! What ever your mission in life is it will all boil down to one common thing....LOVE.
So turn off the tv, eat a healthy breakfast, sing a song on the way to work, hold the door and smile at someone even if they made you angry the day before, and end your day staring up into the stars and breathing in the beauty of our existence. It doesn't take much to make each moment of our lives count. Love yourself and you will be able to love others.
So now tell me...what is the meaning of life?


Sunday, April 26, 2015

Shift Your Awareness

This article may make some people feel uncomfortable or even angry. While reading it please keep in mind it is written from the mind of someone who understands that true compassion is to have a deep awareness of the suffering of another without the need to relieve it, feeling total appreciation for it's value, all while being in a state of non-judgment. 
The other day I read an article of a local woman who was walking along the canal with her two small children in a stroller when suddenly a swarm of bees came at her and in hope to protect her children they all fell into the canal. Unfortunately because the children were strapped into the stroller they both drown while the mother lived. In reality this is an emotionally horrific accident to have to continue on in life and live with so why did it happen? Honestly that is one question we will never know the answer to but as humans we ask ourselves how do these horrific things happen and why. Trying to look at these types of incidences from more than one perspective is the only way some of us are able to accept the incident. One perspective could be karmic. In this life the woman is the perfect citizen, wife, and mother but for some reason she is to live the rest of her life with the guilt that she was partially why her children died. In a past or parallel life it could merely be this life's way of balancing things out. It doesn't make it any easier to swallow but in order for the chain of karma to end this lady needs to reach deep inside herself and let it go and forgive herself. She needs to understand the meaning of compassion and apply it to her situation. If she can not do this in the course of this lifetime she is destined to repeat the pattern in one way shape or form again creating the same pain and the same dilemma
Another perspective is it needed to happen in order to bring awareness to what true compassion is. With yin and yang you need the darkness to shed light on truth. We have a great opportunity in this life to reach our ultimate goal which is always the same for everyone on some level and that is love. The woman who experienced this horrible tragedy has the perfect opportunity to become enlightened and share that love and enlightenment on this harsh and judgmental world we live in. Through understanding and forgiveness she can release some much needed love into the world and help move our ascending planet right where it needs to be in the evolutionary process to peace and love. This is only one incident but I am referring to all horrific acts, incidents, and situations. We have to accept them and appreciate them for their value then release the pain of the incident and let it go. If we continue to live without forgiveness and the ability to move on during tragedy we are destined to live in a world of pain for what will feel like eternity. It does not have to be this way. We are living in a time where the energies coming to our planet are accelerated and the sooner we begin to understand this concept and embody it we the sooner we will evolve to another level of understanding. It is vital for our civilization, planet, and universe that we embrace, embody, and become compassion. In the face of the most horrific tragedy we need to spread compassion with  the deep awareness of the suffering without the need to relieve it and feel total appreciation for it's value through being in a state of non-judgment.
If you can at least grasp the concept you are shifting and this is one step closer. If you are rebelling against it it has still became a part of your consciousness and that too is important towards shifting. One day our world will be compassion right now you just need to begin to hear about what compassion really means.

Sunday, April 19, 2015

Exploring The Darkside in Order to Find the Light


Its become common knowledge that you can not have one without the other. Opposites are needed in order to have definition of one another. If the world was all light and one big utopia there would be no need to exist, and it would be impossible to have only evil unless there was good to compare it to.

On that note when we go through challenging and dark times all we really wish for is light. What I am coming to realize is that there i truly no way to see the light until you have explored every corner of the dark. The challenges and darkness are there and will inevitably go away once you find the light and can see the difference in the process you just went through. You've grown and you are wiser because of it.

So what does it mean to explore the darkside? Do we interact with it, do we wade through it feeling our way around the pain, or do we observe and explore it with a sense of detachment and total appreciation for its value? I suppose the latter is the way to best make use of our time exploring the darkside but detachment entails being able to live and be compassion. We have to be able to see things we do not like without feeling the need to relieve it. We have to understand its happening as it should and has a purpose. If we interact with it we have added dimensions and karma and prolonged the process, but if we observe it from compassionate detached place we have better chances of leaving the journey feelings a sense of enlightenment.

How do we walk through the darkside detached when we are empathic humans and we feel everything. No one said walking through the darkside would be painless or easy. We have to learn to process what we see and feel then let it go. It was something we observed it did not have to be something we permanently took on.

In my own life at this moment I am clearly exploring the darkness but I am not having much luck remaining detached. I have been finding myself interacting and adding to the problem as opposed to allowing the darkness to do its job and letting go at the end of the day. I believe my problem with this is that I am raising a child I adopted and promised to provide a healthier environment than she started off in life and here I am watching as things out of my control are happening. As I walk through the darkside I see sides of my child unfold that would never be there if I had not let certain things transpire yet truly it was all going to happen one way or another and truly is out of my control. I have come to believe I am writing this post to help remind me that as I explore the darkside in life at this time I need to allow and let go. This does not mean that I do not support or be responsible, but it does mean that when my child turns into the devil because she knows no other way to express how she is feeling I need to "ALLOW HER TO MISBEHAVE" and stay firm in my discipline and always hug her in the end.

The darkside sure is ugly but in the end both myself and my daughter will be shinning bright. I need to stay out of karmas way and assist in life and not necessarily interact with it.

If you are reflecting on your journey through the darkside right now and I can share one piece of advice I will say this, "This too shall pass". It always does.

Thursday, April 9, 2015

Lucy - We Don't Really Die...


The movie Lucy was the perfect "How to understand existence for dummies" movie yet some still missed the point. In short Lucy was able to use enough of her brain to defy all logic as our 10% brain usage can understand. Once she was able to use enough of her brain she suddenly realized all things that make us human are gone and her knowledge was all that exists. What some people missed in that statement is that what makes us human is not who we are. Who we are is "everything" and we are "everywhere". Who we know humans to be is so minuet we might as well be a spec of dust on a fleas wing. One thing Lucy does understand and tries to bring to light is that even though we do not use all our brain there still is purpose. Everything still is working exactly as it should be its just at this point and time in existence our human brains are waking up and because our communication among one another is sped up to lightening speed more information can be shared, expressed, and relayed quicker than any other time in history. Therefore we are right on target in the circle and cycle of human evolution. As in the movie you see where it begins and where it ends is one and the same...that is because existence, just as the air we breath, is always there. If you can imagine that we are everything and everywhere when would we not exist? Time, as the movie helps us understand, truly is the only form of measurement and with out it we do not exist in the literal, or physical sense. We make time therefore we create physical existence. Once we can stop time, once we evolve past using time as a form of measurement, only then have we left the physical world. This helps us understand physical death. Lucy states in the movie "we never really die". The physical self has let go of measuring time and their for has no need to physically exist but they are one and the same....they too are everything and everywhere all the time. This is what it means when it is said "i will always be with you" when someone passes. They, we, can not be separate of one another, we only see separation with the small percent of our mind we use but in reality we are all one and the same. We are "God" we are "the divine" we are "the universe". When you break it down as the movie did its easier to understand the cycle of human evolution and existence. There are still many things our minds can not comprehend because we are still thinking in a 3D perspective but once our society evolves more many of our questions we have can be answered because we will be using more of our brain. So do evolution a favor and wake up. Use more of your brain. Think, express, communicate, grow, and evolve. Do not get me wrong you do not need to be perfection you just need to be willing to look at life with more of an open heart and mind. Merely opening your heart and mind just a little more than it already is is enough to move human evolution along.

Monday, March 16, 2015

You Don't Have to be Psychic To Read People...

....all you have to do is listen, watch, and feel. It is very easy to read people and no special psychic abilities are needed all you need is a clear observant mind that is free from judgement. Judgement can taint your perception and easily cause you to misread someone. If you have the true desire to be able to read people you may need to begin by becoming a people watcher. Sit, watch, and don't say a word. Peoples actions speak extremely loud. Body language can easily give away a persons mood and if you look at where you are what they are you can begin to start to put a story together. Of course you can never truly know unless you ask the person or if you knew them fairly well...but the more practice you have the easier it gets. I personally use it as part of my social game when I am out interacting with people I never met. I make it fun and I look them over and start to read them. I ask them a few simple yes or no questions to help my reasoning and then BAM! they are chit chatting away with me about their life. People love to talk about themselves so if you ever want to win brownie points just get people talking. Have you ever watch the tv series Elementary. How do you think he so quickly picks up on what is really happening? He is extremely observant, borderline autism I would say, but he really zeros in on what he sees and begins to piece things together. So let's make this a fun challenge. Start doing some people watching, not stalking, but just casual observing and begin to get a feel for reading people. Then one night when you are sitting around with friends and mingling with people you haven't met yet ask them if you can try reading them. You can make it fun and hold their hands...this will give them the impression your psychic or something...and then start observing their body language. think back on some thing you heard them talking about, consider their age and gender, and try and see if you can tell them things about themselves they haven't made known to a lot of people. If you know anything about astrology you can through that in too. If you know their sign you have a lot of basic traits that can help you zero in on some personal characteristics. Finally feel them out. Is their tone edgy, are they irritated with you and this is not fun for them, hmmm maybe they are cynics....are the smiling ear to ear and when they talk you feel cozy inside...hmmm maybe they are naturally nurturing people...use all your senses and before you know it you'll even amaze yourselves. Think about it this way, psychics are merely sensitives with heightened senses, if you begin to use your senses maybe you are becoming psychic? Maybe the label "psychic" is just a label for fine tuning our senses and getting in touch with all things around us. Maybe the way we look at the label of one who is psychic will begin to change because suddenly we understand everything is easy to understand when we tune into another using all our senses simultaneously. Maybe we are something we never imagined ourselves to really be but have always known we are...maybe you will suddenly....wake up.

  

Sunday, March 15, 2015

The Importance of Becoming Self Aware


In life people often find themselves offended by what others say or do because they "think" the other person is trying to hurt them, but in reality the situation is touching a sensitive point or insecurity they have within and they interpret it completely different than intended. At times they become even more angry when the other person does not own up or take responsibility for their actions towards them or others when really they are absolutely not responsible for how other people feel if their intent was the opposite. If you are the person who is getting the finger pointed at and you did not do anything to deserve the negative feedback then do not allow it to bother you it is the other persons problem not yours. The same goes when someone does not like you. You have no control over how the other person feels and whatever their problem is is strictly their problem. They win when you allow it to effect you. If you can turn the cheek and let it go then eventually the energy will dissipate and the situation changes as a whole. The basis of this post is to help awaken people to how our own insecurities, fears, and pains are often triggered unconsciously by the assumed actions of others. We need to become aware of "actual" intend and not "assumed" intent. If you do not know the difference in a particular situation you have a choice....talk to the person about it or let it go. If you hold onto it you will gain nothing but angst from the situation. It's important to be in touch with your inner emotions, know your pains and fear, and be aware of their triggers. If you sweep these things under the carpet or do not become conscious of who you truly are, you will continue to live in survivor mode and not grow as a person.
Become aware of who you are so you can better understand and hear the clear intent of others. If you can recognize when someone is merely triggering and insecurity and when they are truly intending to hurt you, you have achieved success in self awareness!

Wednesday, February 25, 2015

Force Nothing...

Everyone has heard the term "go with the flow" but how many people have taken it literally? If we go with the flow aren't we conforming to what others want us to do? Hmmm? I would first think that maybe it meant to be a sheep and be asleep but really "going with the flow" is really the best advice to avoid much unneeded pain and suffering. I'm not saying be passive and live in ignorance. Not at all. What I am saying is, is that when the universe deals you a hand you always have a decision on how you deal with it. For example, let's say you are sitting in traffic and are almost to your exit. You are ready for the relief of all the congestion when suddenly someone cuts you off and makes you wait that much longer. What do you do? How do you react? You have a decision. Do you go off the curb and cut back in front of the person? Opp's I hear sirens. Do you scream, yell, and beep your horn? Ugh the person is getting out of their car...this could get ugly. Or do you take a deep breath and understand the universe is working under one big plan and for what ever reason, which you may never know, you weren't supposed to exit the freeway just yet. Maybe if you had a car would smash into and cause a tragic accident. The point being is that we choose to force things when they upset up. No one likes being upset or taken off track of what they were thinking was supposed to be happening. On a more personal scale we often have issues in our relationships where we need to take the same advice. If our we have an attraction to someone and we pour our heart out to them it is human nature to think the other person will be swooned and feel the same thing we do. Some of the time that may be true but for what ever reason it is not always the case. So....you have a choice. Do you keep pouring your heart out to that person in hopes they eventually respond? Why would you do that? Yes it feels good to express yourself, but that person is not going to change their heart because your being persistent. They may be flattered and want you to keep the love coming but you know things will not go anywhere and because you are forcing the issue you are holding yourself back from other possibilities and opportunities! What if all this time you were charming this one love you missed the opportunity of meeting your soul mate. You were so busy thinking you found the one even though they weren't receptive that you literally forced one situation and missed another.
We have to trust that life is happening just as it should. Even though the outcome is not what we want it we truly have to suck it up, bite down and bear it, and go with the flow. As soon as we force things that are not necessarily meant to be we have created friction and mad things that much harder for ourselves. It's kind of like when the judge says you need to go to jail for a month for a petty crime and you're so angry because you felt the sentence was unfair that while your in jail you fight everyone who crosses your path. Looks like you just made your pain that much worse and your sentence that much  longer.
In the end we always have a choice and if we want to choose "the easiest" route we need to just go with what the universe deals us with as little resistance as possible. Do not get me wrong. There will be challenges that the universe sends us that does call for our attention, but you truly need to decide when the universe is showing you a different path and when you need to grab the shovel to get through that path. Getting in tune with your higher self and looking within to what is true and real is very important for our connection to what the universe has in store for us. We do not need to walk upon this earth blindly accepting whatever is in front of us....the universe is constantly talking to us and explaining what is happening in the moment...it is up to you if you choose to tune in and listen or tune out and be a pawn. Once again you have a choice. In the mean time try not to force things....and go with the flow...and when your ready....take that step to learn how to go within and suddenly learn the language of the gods....silence.

Monday, February 16, 2015

Ancient Wine

It seems that it has been eternity since I have sipped your wine,
The night was dark and the stars were perfectly aligned,
The heavens were singing their songs of mystic celebration as your hair shone in the moonlight...
I know you do not remember it as I, but it is the silence and magic of the moment that brings me back... I can still smell the evening dusk as we mingled on the old porch...
clouds swarmed through my head and suddenly ecstasy tease my lips...never had I been so alive as the few moments I spent swimming in the essence of your soul...memories of a time long past flashed through my minds eye and in that instant I realized...here we were again...
As quickly as the moment came the gods chased it away...as if it never happened and the memory was all that remained...What did I do so wrong that I was not allowed the pleasure of your wine in this life...why was the breeze so sweet, oh how the aroma so strong...
I see it as being blessed...a time that felt so right sang to me like a lullaby...tomorrow is a new day and forever will still remain...I have faith that the glass will come to my lips again...as I hold on the memory will never fade...until we meet again no wine will taste the same

Sunday, February 1, 2015

It's All About The Process....No Skipping Steps


What does it mean to skip steps? Everything in life has a process. When we grow from children to adults we have stages and steps to go through, when we plan something there are stages and steps to go through, and when we experience a moment of any nature we go through stages and steps to process it. If we try to go from point A to point C without first stopping off at point B we are skipping steps. When we skip steps we are forced to repeat them later or else we create experiences and challenges that force us to experience them holding us back from moving forward. There is technically NO skipping steps. I learned through being a foster parent that many children skip steps in their early development. Because their parent's didn't hug and hold them enough they skipped vital steps, or because they never had a crib or bed they never felt secure or closed in and skipped that step in their development. In turn these children need to have those early experiences recreated. If they continue on without recreating these experiences they will have many challenges to go through in life until they do so. This is the same for adults who go through traumatic experiences. When their is a sudden break up or event that happens in a relationship like death you must go through all the stages and steps in order to process what has happened. You can not skip steps. If you choose to live in denial and not deal with what has happened to you, you will not grow and create much unneeded havoc in your life. This came to my consciousness recently due to some unexpected traumatic experiences that changed my life in an instant. I immediately wanted to detach from the experience and move on with life but the more I tried to do so the harder time I had emotionally. I was being forced to go through the process. I was consciously realizing I was not able to process what was happening because I was trying so hard to skip steps. The stages of grief one must go through are shock and denial, pain and guilt, anger and bargaining, depression and reflection, the up turn and reconstruction,  and working through acceptance and hope. I wanted to skip all of them and get right to reflection and reconstruction! It just does not work that way. Instead I found myself in the middle of denial and swimming through guilt. The basis of this post is to help bring awareness to the fact that skipping steps is the same as sweeping things under the carpet, it will still be there until you deal with it. In life we can wake ourselves up to being more self aware and recognizing stages and patterns in life, when we actually go through them the process will be much easier and smoother. It is when we choose to shut ourselves off and not want to deal and feel things that we make things so very much harder and drawn out.
All in all.....deal with life straight on as it presents itself and do not fear the pain you will feel....allow yourself to feel it, process it, and then finally let it go!