Wednesday, February 25, 2015

Force Nothing...

Everyone has heard the term "go with the flow" but how many people have taken it literally? If we go with the flow aren't we conforming to what others want us to do? Hmmm? I would first think that maybe it meant to be a sheep and be asleep but really "going with the flow" is really the best advice to avoid much unneeded pain and suffering. I'm not saying be passive and live in ignorance. Not at all. What I am saying is, is that when the universe deals you a hand you always have a decision on how you deal with it. For example, let's say you are sitting in traffic and are almost to your exit. You are ready for the relief of all the congestion when suddenly someone cuts you off and makes you wait that much longer. What do you do? How do you react? You have a decision. Do you go off the curb and cut back in front of the person? Opp's I hear sirens. Do you scream, yell, and beep your horn? Ugh the person is getting out of their car...this could get ugly. Or do you take a deep breath and understand the universe is working under one big plan and for what ever reason, which you may never know, you weren't supposed to exit the freeway just yet. Maybe if you had a car would smash into and cause a tragic accident. The point being is that we choose to force things when they upset up. No one likes being upset or taken off track of what they were thinking was supposed to be happening. On a more personal scale we often have issues in our relationships where we need to take the same advice. If our we have an attraction to someone and we pour our heart out to them it is human nature to think the other person will be swooned and feel the same thing we do. Some of the time that may be true but for what ever reason it is not always the case. So....you have a choice. Do you keep pouring your heart out to that person in hopes they eventually respond? Why would you do that? Yes it feels good to express yourself, but that person is not going to change their heart because your being persistent. They may be flattered and want you to keep the love coming but you know things will not go anywhere and because you are forcing the issue you are holding yourself back from other possibilities and opportunities! What if all this time you were charming this one love you missed the opportunity of meeting your soul mate. You were so busy thinking you found the one even though they weren't receptive that you literally forced one situation and missed another.
We have to trust that life is happening just as it should. Even though the outcome is not what we want it we truly have to suck it up, bite down and bear it, and go with the flow. As soon as we force things that are not necessarily meant to be we have created friction and mad things that much harder for ourselves. It's kind of like when the judge says you need to go to jail for a month for a petty crime and you're so angry because you felt the sentence was unfair that while your in jail you fight everyone who crosses your path. Looks like you just made your pain that much worse and your sentence that much  longer.
In the end we always have a choice and if we want to choose "the easiest" route we need to just go with what the universe deals us with as little resistance as possible. Do not get me wrong. There will be challenges that the universe sends us that does call for our attention, but you truly need to decide when the universe is showing you a different path and when you need to grab the shovel to get through that path. Getting in tune with your higher self and looking within to what is true and real is very important for our connection to what the universe has in store for us. We do not need to walk upon this earth blindly accepting whatever is in front of us....the universe is constantly talking to us and explaining what is happening in the moment...it is up to you if you choose to tune in and listen or tune out and be a pawn. Once again you have a choice. In the mean time try not to force things....and go with the flow...and when your ready....take that step to learn how to go within and suddenly learn the language of the gods....silence.