I believe one of the toughest lessons for some people to learn is how to be vulnerable. What does vulnerable mean anyway? According to dictionary.com it either means capable of or susceptible to being wounded or hurt or playing Bridge and having won one of the games of a rubber. I have no idea what the second one means but I do understand why its important to be susceptible to being wounded or hurt. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying setting yourself up for disaster so you can be hurt what I'm saying is I know why allowing yourself to be vulnerable is important.
Lets take this common scenario for instance. Two friends Marie and Tanya are sitting in a coffee shop chatting about their love life or lack there of. Marie has had a rough time with her boyfriend and has recently broken up and Tanya hasn't dated anyone is months because her last relationship was so bad. Marie is asking Tanya if she'd like to go for a girls night out and Tanya is apprehensive summing up all men to be dogs. Yes, this is a common scenario! Tanya is scared! Her heart was broken. So was Marie's but she is living from the perspective where she is going to get back out there and have a good time. She realizes that if she sits back and lives in fear of being heart broken again or fear that she will just have the same thing happen that always happens she will lose out on life. Yes she won't have her heart broken but guess what she also won't experience the joys of love. So what if the love ends some day! Change is good! Yes it hurts! Sometimes a lot! Sometimes so much so you feel like you will never be able to love another! But why would you chose to limit your life just because of fear?
Being vulnerable, capable of or susceptible to being wounded or hurt, means you go out and experience life for all that its worth. When you fall you get back up again. Which life would you rather live one where you experienced everything and enjoyed yourself fully even at the price of heart break, or one where you were too scared to move forward and try anything new. One were change was the devil and you were scared of being in hell? I think I know which one I would chose.
Being vulnerable allows one true freedom from fear. You are limitless in life if you allow, trust, and have faith. You will be truly free. Being free does have a price. The price is allowing whatever life deals you to happen and not feeling the need to control or stop it. Change is inevitable either go with it or against it. But I guarantee those who go with it will be much happier in the end. If were are all going to die someday wouldn't you want to die happy?
Friday, April 30, 2010
Thursday, April 29, 2010
Lets have a little chat about FAITH and TRUST
We all go through our trials and tributes. We all have traumatic painful experiences and phases we go through in life. We have all found ourselves sitting in the dark and seeing that there was no way out. But what if there was a way to at the very least eliminate or decrease those experiences from happening. What if there was a way when you were in the middle of that dark place to suddenly see the light from the crack of the door and we able to walk out into the sunshine.
In life we have heard the words Faith and Trust thrown around to us from spiritual leaders, friends, and family members when they are trying to cheer us up and lift us out of that dark place. But raise your hand if you are one of those people who let those two words slip through your ears and back out again. Until you are completely tired and feel there is no other way to lose in life you may never really try and grasp the concept of Faith and Trust. I personally got to a point in my life where I was tired of always finding myself back in the same place in life and I came to realize that no one was going to make it better for me but me.
So what did I do? I learned to Trust and have Faith. I force feed myself the definition of what it meant to trust life and what it meant to have faith everything is happening as it should. I'm not going to sit here and write about how easy it is and leave you with no tangible guidelines. We have all read tons of those types of articles. Plane and simple I am going to show you how it worked for me over and over and how it shocked me each time!
~Leap and the net will appear~
Yep that's what you do! There is only one thing stopping you! Only one obstacle! Fear.
So lets boil it down to the lowest common denominator. What is the very worst that can happen when you decide to take a leap of faith?! Death. Is that so bad? If that is really the worst thing that can happen then you have absolutely nothing to lose!
I have learned that when I need something in life I simply ask for it. Ask and you shall receive. I don't say to the universe, god, or whomever you show to pray to "I need a million dollars can you send it straight to my bank account." But I do say, "My car is not doing so well and if it breaks down I will be in a lot of trouble. Would you please find a way to bring a good car into my life." And then I forgot all about it! I told the universe and never looked back. About a month later Arizona heat hit and my air conditioning in my car was out and I sucked it up and took myself to the dealership. I came home with a beautiful brand spanking new car and my car payments were only $7 more a month than I was paying and a piece of junk!
Oh I have many more stories of how I randomly take leaps of faith! But to spare you all the details I will come down to my most recent ones! The biggest leap I feel I have ever taken!
Last month I was tired of the way I was being treated at work. I had been avoiding the leap. But finally I took it and quite my job. I was raised never to leave a job when I did not already have one lined up. But I never allowed fear to take over! I felt deep within me that it would be ok so I quite!
A month later my bills are due and my car is LOW on oil and needs a change. I have $19.25 in my personal bank account. So I said to the universe yesterday, "Please line up some work for me. Money is getting very tight. I do not need anymore than I need to pay my bills and get by. I am willing to work in the places you need me most so just send it my way. I have only a few weeks before my big bills need to be paid and I have had no luck in getting jobs." Then I let it go! I did not worry one more time about it!!!!!!
I came home and guess what. I got a phone call for one side job the very next day! I was so excited because I would be able to put that money away. And then I prayed for a little more work so I could make my bills on time. A few hours later due to a typo on my supervisors part I had to contact her and she just so happened needed someone to do a second job with random dates and hours for more pay then the other job! Guess what I did the math and I will have enough money exactly in time to pay all my bills! Simply because I asked. Simply because I had faith I would be taken care of. Simply because I trusted in the universe that my needs would be met. Yes it is risky! But remember what do you have to lose?
If you believe it then so be it! If you know then it is so! Have faith and trust! Ask and you shall receive! These are not just words to make you feel better. They are solutions to some of life's toughest most painful issues!
In life we have heard the words Faith and Trust thrown around to us from spiritual leaders, friends, and family members when they are trying to cheer us up and lift us out of that dark place. But raise your hand if you are one of those people who let those two words slip through your ears and back out again. Until you are completely tired and feel there is no other way to lose in life you may never really try and grasp the concept of Faith and Trust. I personally got to a point in my life where I was tired of always finding myself back in the same place in life and I came to realize that no one was going to make it better for me but me.
So what did I do? I learned to Trust and have Faith. I force feed myself the definition of what it meant to trust life and what it meant to have faith everything is happening as it should. I'm not going to sit here and write about how easy it is and leave you with no tangible guidelines. We have all read tons of those types of articles. Plane and simple I am going to show you how it worked for me over and over and how it shocked me each time!
~Leap and the net will appear~
Yep that's what you do! There is only one thing stopping you! Only one obstacle! Fear.
So lets boil it down to the lowest common denominator. What is the very worst that can happen when you decide to take a leap of faith?! Death. Is that so bad? If that is really the worst thing that can happen then you have absolutely nothing to lose!
I have learned that when I need something in life I simply ask for it. Ask and you shall receive. I don't say to the universe, god, or whomever you show to pray to "I need a million dollars can you send it straight to my bank account." But I do say, "My car is not doing so well and if it breaks down I will be in a lot of trouble. Would you please find a way to bring a good car into my life." And then I forgot all about it! I told the universe and never looked back. About a month later Arizona heat hit and my air conditioning in my car was out and I sucked it up and took myself to the dealership. I came home with a beautiful brand spanking new car and my car payments were only $7 more a month than I was paying and a piece of junk!
Oh I have many more stories of how I randomly take leaps of faith! But to spare you all the details I will come down to my most recent ones! The biggest leap I feel I have ever taken!
Last month I was tired of the way I was being treated at work. I had been avoiding the leap. But finally I took it and quite my job. I was raised never to leave a job when I did not already have one lined up. But I never allowed fear to take over! I felt deep within me that it would be ok so I quite!
A month later my bills are due and my car is LOW on oil and needs a change. I have $19.25 in my personal bank account. So I said to the universe yesterday, "Please line up some work for me. Money is getting very tight. I do not need anymore than I need to pay my bills and get by. I am willing to work in the places you need me most so just send it my way. I have only a few weeks before my big bills need to be paid and I have had no luck in getting jobs." Then I let it go! I did not worry one more time about it!!!!!!
I came home and guess what. I got a phone call for one side job the very next day! I was so excited because I would be able to put that money away. And then I prayed for a little more work so I could make my bills on time. A few hours later due to a typo on my supervisors part I had to contact her and she just so happened needed someone to do a second job with random dates and hours for more pay then the other job! Guess what I did the math and I will have enough money exactly in time to pay all my bills! Simply because I asked. Simply because I had faith I would be taken care of. Simply because I trusted in the universe that my needs would be met. Yes it is risky! But remember what do you have to lose?
If you believe it then so be it! If you know then it is so! Have faith and trust! Ask and you shall receive! These are not just words to make you feel better. They are solutions to some of life's toughest most painful issues!
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
I Am My Own Hero
I have no heroes because there is no one outside of myself that has the answers I search for. There is no book, no guru, no humble person, or genius, no religious practice or meditation. They are all mere catalysts, perfect reflections, there to help me go inside myself turn my mind off and understand what is going on beyond words, beyond the mind, beyond the illusions playing out in front of me. I am my own master as you are. And yet, I am your reflection. In whatever light you see me, it is reflecting something deep within you that is begging for you to become aware of. And vice versa. You are my reflection. I chose to see you for what you are and realize it is not separate from me but something within me as well. If we are not separate how can I call anyone or anything outside of me my hero? I am my own master as you are. If you love yourself you are able to love me.
I want to share an inspiring excert from one of my favorite mystics who may be able to take you deeper within on your journey of self mastery. I have often said, "We are all on imaginary journeys to a place we have never left!"
<3 Heaven
Beyond mind, there is an awareness that is intrinsic, that is not given to you by the outside, and is not an idea -- and there is no experiment up to now that has found any center in the brain which corresponds to awareness. The whole work of meditation is to make you aware of all that is "mind" and disidentify yourself from it. That very separation is the greatest revolution that can happen to man.Now you can do and act on only that which makes you more joyous, fulfills you, gives you contentment, makes your life a work of art, a beauty. But this is possible only if the master in you is awake. Right now the master is fast asleep. And the mind, the servant, is playing the role of master. And the servant is created by the outside world, it follows the outside world and its laws. Once your awareness becomes a flame, it burns up the whole slavery that the mind has created. There is no blissfulness more precious than freedom, than being a master of your own destiny.
Osho From the False to the Truth Chapter 7
I want to share an inspiring excert from one of my favorite mystics who may be able to take you deeper within on your journey of self mastery. I have often said, "We are all on imaginary journeys to a place we have never left!"
<3 Heaven
Beyond mind, there is an awareness that is intrinsic, that is not given to you by the outside, and is not an idea -- and there is no experiment up to now that has found any center in the brain which corresponds to awareness. The whole work of meditation is to make you aware of all that is "mind" and disidentify yourself from it. That very separation is the greatest revolution that can happen to man.Now you can do and act on only that which makes you more joyous, fulfills you, gives you contentment, makes your life a work of art, a beauty. But this is possible only if the master in you is awake. Right now the master is fast asleep. And the mind, the servant, is playing the role of master. And the servant is created by the outside world, it follows the outside world and its laws. Once your awareness becomes a flame, it burns up the whole slavery that the mind has created. There is no blissfulness more precious than freedom, than being a master of your own destiny.
Osho From the False to the Truth Chapter 7
Monday, April 26, 2010
No One Knew What To Do
No one knew what to do.
So they walked.
Soon they came to a beautiful river.
It was just what they needed for their walk was long and hard and they were very thirsty
As they bent down each scooped water into their hands and began to indulge.
One child looked up and said,"I am blessed for I needed water and here it is and i didn't even ask for it".
Another child added, "and I am blessed for the sun was so hot and harsh and this beautiful river nurtures the most beautiful grand trees and I can nap in the shade".
And the last child said nothing for he was busy starring at his reflection in the water. He was darkened from the sun, dirty from the treacherous walk, and thinned from no water or food, yet he smiled for he knew that at one time he had no answers and did not know what to do but in his reflection he saw the world come to life. He knew there was nothing he needed to do. He realized there was nothing he needed to ask for. He knew that it did not matter how he looked or how hard his life had been because in his reflection he saw something he never seen before...everything. He was a part of everything. Nothing was separate from him. He was the trees and the wind, the water and the air, the birds and flowers. He realized none of these things ever asks for anything. None of them knows what to do, they just are, they just do.
The moral of the story is: Be who and what you are. Do not worry about what to do in life for it will naturally unfold in front of you. Know you are provided for and have no need to suffer, and remember you are a perfect reflection of what already is.
So they walked.
Soon they came to a beautiful river.
It was just what they needed for their walk was long and hard and they were very thirsty
As they bent down each scooped water into their hands and began to indulge.
One child looked up and said,"I am blessed for I needed water and here it is and i didn't even ask for it".
Another child added, "and I am blessed for the sun was so hot and harsh and this beautiful river nurtures the most beautiful grand trees and I can nap in the shade".
And the last child said nothing for he was busy starring at his reflection in the water. He was darkened from the sun, dirty from the treacherous walk, and thinned from no water or food, yet he smiled for he knew that at one time he had no answers and did not know what to do but in his reflection he saw the world come to life. He knew there was nothing he needed to do. He realized there was nothing he needed to ask for. He knew that it did not matter how he looked or how hard his life had been because in his reflection he saw something he never seen before...everything. He was a part of everything. Nothing was separate from him. He was the trees and the wind, the water and the air, the birds and flowers. He realized none of these things ever asks for anything. None of them knows what to do, they just are, they just do.
The moral of the story is: Be who and what you are. Do not worry about what to do in life for it will naturally unfold in front of you. Know you are provided for and have no need to suffer, and remember you are a perfect reflection of what already is.
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