Fear Not What You Can Never Accomplish

Let's begin by defining the word "perfection". According to the Merimman-Webster Dictionary perfection is defined as something that cannot be improved. As humans we have no need to ever feel as though we are not good enough, because we never will be. Humans are imperfect beings who are perfect  at only being imperfect. How is it we go through life thinking we are not good enough when in reality we are already perfect the way we are? If we were perfect there would be no need for us to be incarnated at this time on this very imperfect planet. We have much to learn and we will never reach perfection here and now. If we were to be so blessed as to reach the state of perfection it is more than likely we would exit this life and move into a realm where we could continue to exist so purely. If we know that we live in am imperfect world and we know we will never be perfect why are we so hard on ourselves when we do not meet these or others standards? These are questions you should be asking yourself. When you do not meet the expectations of another why is it you feel so low? When another does not meet your expectations why is it you feel so low? When we are disappointed, because either ourselves or someone else who did not meet the standards and expectations set by another, how do we stop the vicious cycle. We have already concluded that we are not perfect and no one else will ever be perfect, but we do have a quality of life, standards, and expectations that we want to meet and others to meet as well. Right? What if you do not pass your class with a high grade? What is the outcome? Do you think you wasted your time? The answer would be no even if you really feel  you did. You did not waste your time because you learned something and you are human and humans make painful mistakes in order to learn. What did you learn? Well maybe you learned that the topic you were studying is challenging and you need extra help understanding it, or maybe you learned that your free time was more important and you need to be more committed if a high grade is what you are desiring. All in all you learned something and have the opportunity to do it over. The same goes for your job. Your boss called you in because you have not been meeting his or her standards. How do you feel? Do you deserve to feel this way? Yes because they are right you are not doing what you should be in order to achieve the goals you agreed upon for the position. What was the outcome? You learned if you want this job you need to work harder in meeting their standards. Oh wait, no what they are saying is not fair. You have been working your ass off and you do not deserve to be made to feel low. In this case you have a choice. A, you can leave the company and work for someone who appreciats you, or B, you can feel bad about yourselves because you just weren't good enough and continue to work for people who choose to abuse your hard work. All in all you learned something and you have the opportunity to do it over or move on.
Another way to look at perfection is taking expectations out of the equation. If one does not have expectations there is no room for disappointment or feeling low. If one does not have expectations then the word perfection does not even need to exist because there will be nothing being measured good or bad. The easiest way to solve the problem of feeling "not perfect or good enough" is to take away all forms of expectations and you have completely eliminated the problem. Now for time being you and I both know that our world runs on goals and striving for something better. If that is the way our society is going to work there will always be guidelines, standards, and expectations to be met. So if our world is going to continue to run this way may we are damned if we do and damned if we don't, or maybe we could change our perspective and remind ourselves we are human and are not perfect. We are human and all in all we learned something and we have the opportunity to do it over or move on. There truly is no reason to not feel good enough! We never will be we will only be as good as we are and if that is not good enough for someone else then we have a choice. We always have a choice.
So the next time you feel low and not good enough remember! YOU ARE HUMAN and you will never be perfect because you already are.

Fate or Free Will Equals Destiny?

I thought I had it figured out. When I was in my early 20's I began wondering if we had free will or if things unfolded were predestined. I came to the conclusion if my personal philosophy that "everything happens for a reason" were true then things must be predestined. That is until recently as I began to watch the Syfy channels series "Continuum". The series is based on a cop from the year 2077 who is sent back in time along with 7 terrorists who killed millions. The whole story line has not completely unfolded as of yet due to the fact that I am watching the first season on Netflix and I am still trying to figure things out, but it leaves me scratching my head once again. So does fate or free will determine our destiny? When I choose one job over another does that change the path of my life? If I make the most minuet decision will that alter the end for me? From what the TV series is saying thus far, you can certainly change your future, but what if you choose a different path way and still end up in the same place? Maybe we don't have a choice how our life will end up but have a choice on how we get there. If I was tragically taken back into the past, and it would be tragic because I would hate to go through life all over again, knowing what I know now would I do everything the same? I wouldn't want to have to make that decision! It would be hard, when faced with some of my mistakes, not to naturally correct them so the outcome is different. I mean shoot, I already learned the lesson why would I want to go through the pain again? But if I changed what I did maybe my life as I know it to become would be actually change?! That would be horrible because maybe the people who I love dearly would no longer be a part of my life, for example my adopted daughter. But what if I am destined to have that loving bond with her! What if I change things and I still end up being able to adopt her? Or, maybe, it's not about our choices but about how we experience life as we make our choices. Let's say I decided to do things differently and I do not adopt my daughter but she still ends up in my life. One way or another we were still destined to be together because in the end the love for one another was destined to happen.
In conclusion, I currently feel as if we have free will on what path we take but in the end our destiny is the same. We will be faced with fateful events and we can choose to react to them in anyway we want but those fateful events will always lead us to the same destiny. With that saying do we choose the hard road and fight against the things that we do not like, or do we take the easy road and do as we are told? Either way our destiny is the same. Maybe we do not need as much pain in our life as we allow because fate, freewill, and destiny all exist together as one with neither of them contradicting the other but instead working together to teach our soul its purpose. What is that you ask? I think it is to remember who and what we truly are and I believe what we are is One....Love.
***This article is subject to change! Because we should never hold on to any one belief so tight that we are not open enough to another more befitting possibility!

How Do You See The Light When You Are Drowning in Darkness?

Even the most spiritual person can not deny that they too experienced a time or even times when where they too were surrounded in complete darkness. Darkness is as inevitable as light and one simply can not exist without the other. Is this why as humans we despise change so intensely? When we are basking in the light of our glorious of times we push the darkness under the carpet and pretend like it had never tortured with heartbreak and pain then when it begins to creep back into our lives we freak out! We go into survival mode because the darkness brings a death of sorts, the death of the light you had prayed and longed for. Survival mode tends to be the devil in disguise because the more we resist the change that is inevitable, the more we deny that the darkness is coming and we take every measure to make sure it stays under the carpet in which case brings more agonizing pain when the darkness comes. In our grey times when the light is not too bright and the darkness not so over whelming we have the opportunity to sit and look at the vicious cycle from the outside in and the question comes to mind, "How do you see the light when you are drowning in darkness?".

As humans we feel everything and at times have little control over our emotions, so when darkness strikes it may suddenly feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel, but honestly the only thing that brings me through the darkness is the simple fact that this too shall pass. Nothing is forever. When I am at my lowest of lows I go through the emotions. I allow myself to feel the pain but when the tears are dried up and my body is weak from the constant pain just knowing that change is inevitable means I am able to hold on longer. It's easier said than done, I know, but really the only way out of the darkness is to see the light and how are you going to see the light if you choose to be swallowed by the darkness? It is very important that we process and go through the darkness but it is just as important to let it go once it has been experienced. We truly are stars and we can not shine unless their is darkness. The darkness reminds us of what and who we are and allows us to be the best that are meant to be and shine as bright possible!

As you reflect I know somewhere you are thinking that its different when you are going through it and that some peoples pain and darkness are more intense than others, and yes this is true but the rules remain the same this too shall pass and change is inevitable! In the end we shine bright because of our journey through the darkness so embrace it, respect it, and know in the end you are who you are because of it!

War and Compassion

I will admit I know little about the civil war going on in Syria but the reason I know little is because I choose to keep my thoughts and heart positive and not fearful and negative. Let me explain this further. When we hear of tragedy we, as emphatic humans automatically empathize and take on the energy, fear and pain, of the one we are relating to. When we do this it multiplies the fear and pain until eventually it is all that consumes a society. Instead I choose to remain compassionately detached sending only love and good thoughts to an already painful situation. I am sure my love is much more healing than my fear stricken empathy. In order to take on this perspective without appearing cold and uncaring one must understand the true meaning of compassion a much higher vibrancy than even "love". Compassion is what "God" consists of. 

Compassion: a deep awareness of the suffering of another without the need to relieve it, feeling total appreciation for it's value, all while being in a state of non-judgment. 

When most people think of "God" they think of a supreme being who has the power to allow bad things to happen to good people. Why would a loving divine being allow these horrible wars that kill innocent people and children? It is because God understand that it all has to happen! The good, the bad, and sometime the very ugly! There is a divine plan and it will unfold as it is supposed to regardless so how are you going to choose to live through these times? You can worry, live emphatically constantly taking on the pains of others, you can continue to amplify the pains of the world with your anxious emotions, or you can be as God is and take on the understanding of being "Compassionate".

The Tibetan monks understand this and they have been hiding from the war China imposes upon them for centuries. China has always wanted to rule over Tibet but the monks have remained Compassionate chanting their Om pray which helps them embody infinite compassion, "Om mani padme hum". The chant to some may seem merely to be a religious form of meditation but really the Om prayer is not religious at all. The Om prayer is an embodiment and a way of being. The Tibetans have the deep awareness that suffering must exist but they do not feel the need to fight it nor do they feel they must fight it on the behalf of others. They appreciate the value it has in this world and they do not judge it as good or bad but just what is.

We think because we are human and emotional beings that morally we must take on the pains of another and fight for what is "right" and against what is "wrong" but first you must define right and wrong. What is right for one maybe wrong for another. What is wrong for one country may be right for another. So who makes up the decision of what is right and what is wrong and that all humans must follow these moral laws? As humans the only thing we are here to do is be of service to the world and to live according to our own personal truth. to be of service may mean many different things to many different people there is no right or wrong way to serve but if you are one who wishes for "peace on earth" and find it impossible than you do not know how to truly embody compassion. Compassion is true love. If you have true love you are capable of being compassionate without the need to go to war to save another.

Again, I know this post will bring up many arguments and it is understandable but it is not my intention to bring animosity out of others who are feeling empathy for those being pained in other countries. All I am trying to say is use your energy for the good of all and try and detach from the fear and pain. It is not heartless to choose not to feel the pain of another. It serves them more for you to send them love than to encourage their situation with more fear.

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Fear Is Just An Illusion to Keep Our Ego Wide Awake.

Each and every moment is only a moment because your consciousness is aware of it. Your consciousness creates time. If you were not aware of it is it really happening? That is why they say "time is an illusion". Our awareness creates time by being aware of something. So when you first become aware it begins a mental timeline for you, a frame of reference, something you can go back and forth from so as not to lose your place and keep track of "time" or things. It is our human minds way of keeping order it is how we understand. Language fits in the same way. We have words, sounds, that we put to pictures and memories that help us also keep track of time and things. But none of this would exist without awareness. What is awareness? It is when our Ego awakens. It is a little ironic being our consciousness is sound asleep and you often hear people refer to us needing to awaken our awareness. Really we are already awake but our Ego causes our consciousness to be asleep. When we are physically asleep our consciousness is wide awake. Sometimes we remember and can even have some sort of control while we are asleep but usually we forget because our consciousness can not comprehend what it knows through the Ego's awareness. We often get glimpses though. We experience certain phenomenon like deja vue, out of body experiences, or a variety of "sixth senses". Our brain is large and as most people know we do not use it to its fullest. If we did our awareness would be wider but our Ego would be in the way and we would not be able to properly survive the world in its current awareness. We will use more of our brains when we truly begin to wake our consciousness up and put our ego's to sleep. Some call this ascension. Our planet is going through a grand ascension and many changes are upon us. It's a form of evolution of consciousness. As our planet goes through it so do we or we can not survive. That is why many souls are leaving the planet at a quickening rate. Their consciousness has either evolved and can not remain here or their consciousness is too asleep and can not withstand the changes just yet.
Our senses are important tools for us when our Ego's are in control. We need our senses to help trigger our emotions so we can feel our way through these times of ascension. Many of us have turned our intuition off and live according to what we see and hear going on around us. These people are the ones some refer to as sheep because they are just going through life as one of the herd but truly if they would listen to their intuition and follow they would be capable of truly seeing things as they really are. As much as some want to remain in control of our consciousness and keep us asleep it is inevitable that our souls will awaken. Our planet is ascending so therefore in order for our species to exists we will ascend as well. Some believe it is beings from other planets that are trying to keep us asleep so they can rule our world. I can not say this is true or not but what I can say is you have nothing to worry about if you just allow your senses to awaken and let your Ego go back to sleep. Begin learning what true compassion is and turn off the Ego mind. I can sit here and talk about it all I want but really the only way you will begin to see is when your soul is ready. Truly I am writing this to help my own ego mind put some order to what is happening in its own stage of awareness. There will come a point when being here on this planet will not even be needed because the awareness will be so grand we will be able to see into and become part of other dimensions of so called "time". Its hard to understand how other dimensions work because our Ego's use "time" but it's the only way to help at least guide the soul in the right direction.
So on that note try and listen to your gut more. Live life to the fullest and know in the end it's not really the end at all. Our souls truly are eternal and fear is just an illusion to keep your Ego wide awake.

You can't change what you refuse to confront...

We all have problems or situations we would like to change. Most of us have prayed and beg for things to change, but unless you take the time to look deep enough at the ugliest part of the problem nothing will ever change they will just repeat themselves. I am sure you have seen the patterns and I bet you are even aware that the problem may have something to do with a choice you are making, but unless you choose to confront that darkness it will always be there. So which do you want to live? A slow agonizing painful life? Or a life that progresses, changes, and evolves into something worth being proud of? Confrontation is easier and quicker than most people give it credit for. If you sucked it up and looked at the painful side of yourself, your dark side, you'd be able to at least admit the problem. Once you look at it and see it's there the pain spreads everywhere, usually at a much quicker rate, but its also the quickest way to start healing and finally putting the band-aide on. In life we all have choices. We get so angry and disgusted with others when we see them make choices that we do not agree with, but what if those people knew about our bad choices? Would they say and think the same things about us? If we are ok with looking at the dark ugliness is others, something we do not have the power to change or fix, they why aren't we ok with looking at our own darkness that we do have the power to fix! If you want change then confront the things that are stopping it from happening!

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You are the only thing blocking your dreams...

Mary Manin Morrissey said it best, "You block your dream when you allow fear to grow bigger than your faith." Since we were small we all had something innate in us...something that we really wish we could do in life. A number of people push the dream under the carpet and move through life ignoring their dream ever existed thinking it was just a dream not a life they could actually live. I think that is a fearful cop out! As we evolve as humans and our awareness expands we are beginning to wake up and realize ANYTHING is possible! Those who live life from a fearful perspective are the ones who still need to smell the coffee but they are where they are supposed to be. No one says we can't shake them awake though! How do we do it? This is the easiest question I have ever answered. We live it! The only way we can change anything is by doing it our self and letting the ripples in water do their magic. In life we can have compassion and love others openly but the only one we are responsible for is ourselves. When I say we are the only one responsible for ourselves I am referring to how we perceive and respond to life. No one is going to smile for us, no one is going to put our foot forward and get a job for us, no one is going to decide if we will be angry, sad or mad. We are responsible for ourselves and therefore if we want to make our dreams come true we need to realize that it is possible if we let go of our doubt and grab a hold of our faith. If you believe it is impossible then it is. It goes back to the old saying, "where there is a will there is a way".
Now that you have had this epiphany and feel motivated to move, to let go of fear and move in a different direction, what is it you want to do? You can do anything! Anything is possible remember. Wait, there is a price to pay for everything you say? Well with every action there is an opposite and equal reaction, so yes in a sense, but if you look at it like its a horrible thing like "paying for it" than you will never make your dream come true. All this means is you need to alter your plans or think outside the box. It can happen, and it can be a win win, you just need to let your faith know exactly what it is you want. If you want that dream job but it entails you moving to another state you may be worried about how it will effect your family. Your children may have to go to another school and your parents and siblings may really miss you. So forget it! Never mind...I will just stay here and keep the same job I have always had and make everyone happy...except myself. Um, NO! Where there is a will there is a way! Go after your dream and find a way to make it happen and have faith that everything will be ok! You children will adjust and your family will be ok. It's unfair of you to stop living your dream so that everyone else can be happy.
So what is it you want to do? How is it you want to live? The choice is yours! You can do whatever you want! You really can!