Thursday, August 26, 2010

Coexist




A dear friend of mine has been displaying her "Coexist" sticker lately and it reminds me clearly of this story about Moses. This story explains that you are to love, pray, and cherish the way it feel right to your heart. No one has superiority over you in the aspect that they know the "right way". There are many religions who teach you do things the "right way" in accordance to God but this story clearly shows they are misleading you. God knows there is no such thing as right and wrong as long as you are living your truth and from your heart!

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A famous story about Moses:
He was passing through a forest and he saw a man praying. The man was saying such absurd things that Moses had to stop. What the man was saying was profane, sacrilegious. He was saying, "God, you must be feeling sometimes very alone--I can come and be always with you like a shadow. Why suffer loneliness when I am here? And I am not a useless person either--I will give you a good bath, and I will take all the lice from your hair and your body..."

Lice?! Moses could not believe his ears: what is this man talking about? "And I will cook food for you--everybody likes what I cook. And I will prepare your bed and I will wash your clothes. When you are ill I will take care of you. I will be a mother to you, a wife to you, a servant, a slave--I can be all kinds of things. Just give me a hint so I can come..."

Moses stopped him and said, "What are you doing? To whom are you talking? Lice in God's hair? He needs a bath? Stop this nonsense! This is not prayer. God will be offended by you."

Looking at Moses, the man fell at his feet. He said, "I am sorry. I am an illiterate, ignorant man. I don't know how to pray. Please, you teach me!"

So Moses taught him the right way to pray, and he was very happy because he had put a man on the right track. Happy, puffed up in his ego, Moses went away. And when he was alone in the forest, a thundering voice came from the sky and said, "Moses, I have sent you into the world to bring people to me, to bridge people with me, but not to take my lovers away from me. And that's exactly what you have done. That man is one of the most intimate to me. Go back and apologize. Take your prayer back! You have destroyed the whole beauty of his dialogue. He is sincere, he is loving. His love is true. Whatsoever he was saying, he was saying from his heart, it was not a ritual. Now what you have given to him is just a ritual. He will repeat it but it will be only on the lips; it will not be coming from his being."

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

The other side is right in front of you


Everyone has a thought on what happens when someone dies. Some people have very strong religious beliefs and other people have thoughts that seem to feel safe and comfortable for them to believe. I myself have been blessed with many experiences that are not explainable. I have been visited by friends family members after they passed over as well as old friends who have come to tell me everything will be ok.
With the personal experiences I have had I have come to believe that the only thing keeping us from being with our loved ones who have passed over is our personal awareness and our eyes! It’s very easy to remove the veil and speak to those who have "crossed over" you just have to realize they haven't gone anywhere at all. Their physical self is not in your presence anymore because they have been blessed with a new consciousness. They do not see life anymore like we do they are in a different awareness and they are experiencing pure peace. We too will be there one day but in the mean time if we are to be closer to our loved ones who have passed all we need to do is look and listen. They are right there with you, in front of you, next to your bed, or behind the television. Sometimes they try to send messages to you like smells and pennies. They want to do whatever it is they can do to show you they are there without making you feel scared.
Some who have passed over do not feel the need to contact you because they are so enjoying their new awareness and since they do not experience time as you and I do, they know you are by their side already. If you need help in easing the pain of their absence know they are happy and free! Trust me. The next time you suddenly start thinking of them, or hear a song that reminds you of them, or words, or sights, or anything, more than likely it was them showing you they are right there with you.
Keep your heart and your mind wide open for the ones you love are still with you!

Thursday, August 19, 2010

You Are Boundless


A wise soul once reminded us that we have an unlimited nature and that we need to remove any doubts and fears and move forward in faith knowing the only limits we will ever experience are ones we imposed and created ourselves. He stated that a world without boundaries or limits is open to us and anything and everything is possible.

When I get lost in the illusions of daily chaos and confusions I often look my right should at this Osho quote posted on my wall. It reminds me that if I believe it, I can create it. It keeps me motivated and empowered to know that if I am down I have what it takes to change how I am feeling and make things lighter and easier again. Sometimes the weight of the world weighs heavy on my shoulders and I begin to allow doubt and fear to over take me. We are all human. We have emotions and we are going to have bad times as well as good times. Sometimes we feel as though we just can not dig ourselves out of those heavy dark holes! That's when we need to step outside of ourselves reach up into the invisible mass of the universe and take back what belongs to us! Our faith, power, and love! It is great inspiring people like Osho and Rumi who remind me of who I am and the power that I have lying inside me.

As the fear and doubt disolve I awaken with great strength and want to shed my new found happiness on everyone around me! The power of goodness spreads a long way! Rumi has been dead for centuries and Osho's words have been spoken and documented since long before I was even thought of. Those two men took time out of their lives to spread light in the world and little did they know how far their light would shine.

Now it is our turn! If everything we feel enlightened we took a moment and spread it to someone else the length it goes is boundless! If we just smiled, or let the driver in front of us through, or helped someone with the door, or even made the effort to share their loving words with a friend that light will do our world more good then you could possibly imagine. I have made it my personal goal in life to shed light where ever I see fit. I want to remind people of who they are and what they are capable of! No one is greater or more powerful than another! We all have the capacity within us to be loved and loving beings and we all are pure by nature. It is the chaotic and negative moments that we allow to sink us into the hole and not feel strong enough to pull ourselves out of.

Today challenge yourself to allow your unlimited nature to move you forward! Have faith in knowing the only limits you have are imposed and created yourself! Then when you up high on your mountain top shinning bright spread that love out as far as you can! Our world needs a hug and you have the boundless power to open your arms and squeeze!

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Why Look To Astrology


Not a lot of people know what astrology is really about. It is sort of a foreign language to them or a religious taboo. Astrology is actually a very useful ancient tool that has been passed on and perfected over many many centuries! The stars are in the sky for a reason no one can deny that, but their mystical glow can do more for us than just tell us what direction we are going while sailing the ocean. Astrology is a map of our lives as well. Some people have the misconception that Astrology is a fortune teller but the powers astrology hold are much more precious than that. It is as unique as the finger prints on your hand and the collection of information you can get is just as revealing.
Instead of using astrology to show you a picture of your fortunes for the future you will gain much more from using it to take a picture of the real you! When I began my journey through the realm of the astrological world little did I know I was taking a journey through the realm of my own unknown! We are often not conscious of our actions or how we are perceived by the outside world. Not until you actually see it written on paper can you really begin to see inside yourself. Of course there is always meditation and breathing chi, but not everyone has the patience for that and if you are like 90 percent of the rest of the world you are easily mentally stimulated. When you delve into your astrological birth chart you will begin to see sides of yourself you weren't completely aware of. You will have the tool to change ways about yourself that you do not think are necessarily healthy, and you have a tool to make your life the way you truly want it to be. If you do not have the capacity to go within on your own then use your birth chart to take you within instead.
I have used astrology to my advantage for many years. I learned who I was and was empowered to be who I was meant to be in this world. When I had major issues it pin pointed why I have them and helped me find solutions to eliminate them from my life. You cannot get any self help book out there on the market that is better in healing you than you own personalized astrological natal chart!
Once you have delved into the depths of self exploration you can take life a step forward and use astrology for many other things. I personally love to us astrology to help me understand people. When I find out just a few valuable details about someone’s birth chart I instant have compassion and understand why they are the way they are. It helps me to adapt easier to people and to know what to say and not say to people according to how they may respond.
If you are looking for love or are in love astrology is great to help you understand the dynamics between you and the person you are interested in or in love with. You can see why you sometimes argue about certain things and why other times you can talk into all hours of the night.
As time goes on you can begin to use astrology as a tool to help you see what kinds of things you need to do in order to make your current year ahead of you work best for you. With a Solar Return chart you have the opportunity to see how the stars are laid out for you for the year to come. You are not destined to have a horrible or good outcome but you are shown what you can do to make things turn out the best! I have been following my own Solar Return Chart for over 5 years now and it has been so helpful in seeing what things I will be going through that year and how I may need to change something in order to make the dreams I want actually happen. It also shows me where something may potentially not be good and I have the free will to arrange the circumstances or the very least have a compassionate and healthy outlook on the situation and not be surprised and shocked.
All in all astrology is the number one accurate tool to helping you understand why things are the way they are in the world. Astrology never lies and it is always dependable...the stars aren't going anywhere anytime soon!
If you would like your astrological natal chart drawn up and interpreted for you feel free to contact me at your convenience! My rates are cheap and interpretations insightful!
~Lori Marie

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

The Answers to All Our Questions

Most people have a lot of unanswered questions about life. Where do we come from? Who is God? How was the world created? Why do we have dreams? Are there such things as ghosts? We never find scientific answers to these questions we collect assumptions and small facts and come to our own conclusions. We live from these conclusions but never really know the truth. As you look at our world around us, globally, we see it crumbling. Disaster after natural disaster, war after religious war, we are seeing every safe haven around us fall and we are living in a very insecure world. No one will deny that change is among us we see it happening every day. It is hard to be shocked when we see the devastation around us and we are left feeling that there is no hope left in the world.
If we are going to survive in what seems to be an ever dying world we need to wake up and remember who and what we are. These changes are among us for a reason to shake us awake. If we were to go about living life in a peaceful and happy go lucky world we would continue to be asleep and never learn the lessons we were sent here to learn. We asked to be here. We chose to live our lives here on this planet and because we chose to be here we also agreed to be sound asleep. We have known that the only way we are going to remember who and what we are was by devastation because being human consists of us having emotions and feelings. Pain is not the devil and is not evil pain and scary things are projections to remind us of what we are not.
As humans we live very mental lives. We have words that are attached to images that creates thoughts and memories with deep emotions. We are not simple beings as least as far as we have learned. In actuality we are very simple beings with the capacity to live on this dying planet with great compassion and faith but we have to first turn our minds off and open our hearts.
If we were capable of changing our perspective on what is happening around us and see not with our eyes but with our hearts we would not see the world as dying but beginning again. Change is good and change is inevitable. We need to change so that we can learn our lessons here on earth and move forward in our evolution as a planet. As long as we see our world as a dying and evil place, we will continue to be plagued with pain and destruction. The day you change your perspective and see with your heart you will see we are living heaven on earth. Those who pass over are right here in front of us we have the capacity to see them but not with our eyes. Our eyes see the image memories create but if we close our eyes we can see and hear them with our heart as if they never left. If we really listened to those who passed over we would see that in the end everything is going to be ok. If they are telling us everything is going to be ok who better to know this then those who have already passed on.
Time and space are an illusion created by our minds to help us keep track of the lessons we learn here and to keep us trapped in the mental illusion of pain. Once we realize that time does not exist and that everything is happening simultaneously have taken the first step towards stopping time and seeing who we really are.
I am sure right now you are asking, "Who are we then?" Our minds cannot properly conceive who we are but the easiest way to explain it is like this. We are multi-dimensional beings living simultaneous lives on many different levels of dimensions. They are rotating so fast it gives off the illusion of standing still. When we try to tap into what is happening with our 3D minds we get lost in the complexity and shake our heads to this being another sci-fi fantasy movie but in reality all our consciousness on all the different levels and planes are united as one light and one source. We have just split off in order to experience things and remember it is we are and to it is a constant repeating pattern and cycle that is never ending until we shut the mind off.
As our planet evolves we have no choice but to evolve to but what we do have a choice in is how painful of an experience it is. We need to shut our minds off and turn our hearts on. The more hearts that open at this time of evolution the quicker and less painful the transformation is. It all sounds so hard to believe and so hard to fathom so my suggestion is not to do so. Do not try to understand, do not try to believe, do not listen to anything I say except one thing!
OPEN YOUR HEART and SHUT OFF YOUR MIND!
None of the things you learn will matter expect how to use your heart. When destruction is among us the only thing we can do is be free from the pain by loving and detaching from the earthly emotion of pain. We are love, we are light, we are one! People always say these things but I am not sure they know what it means in the literal sense, this is because they are using their minds and it’s time to use our hearts!
Nothing is this whole article really matters except that we use our hearts. That we understand the true meaning of compassion and let the world go through the things it needs to. So that when we see destruction, pain, and evil we know that they are just obstacles placed there for us to learn how to hurdle over and detach from. If we truly want to be free we must allow life to unfold exactly as it is planed and we must not intervene but do our part in the speeding the process up. We must be the love that we are. Love is what we are and that is how we are supposed to be living our lives. NOTHING ELSE MATTERS! It’s that simple! Life is that simple! LOVE!

Monday, August 16, 2010

The Child Is Born Wise...

Children are born with all the wisdom. Instead of teaching them too much we must nourish what they already know and unlearn what we have been taught!




If the Children are our future we need to listen to them more!
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Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it.


Charles R. Swindoll stated that Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it. If life is only 10% of what happens to us we should feel extremely empowered at the notion that we have so much control over our lives. Everyone at one time or another has felt at the mercy of life, chance, and circumstances but you always have a choice in how you chose to respond to them.
There are some really evil things that happen in our world and knowing how to respond to them will make a difference on how we chose to be in our lives. Everything starts with our perspective on a situation. If how we respond to a situation is 90% of what controls our lives it’s important we have a good solid faith to live by. A person with a negative attitude or the assumption that only bad things happen to them or they are destined to fail and be dumped on is surely not going to succeed in making their dreams come true. But a person who has a strong faith system installed will always have something to give them hope that everything happens for a reason and that evil is not in a dominating force in our lives.
Faith is a word that means one thing but is based on many different belief systems. Faith means you know what you believe deepest in your heart is true. What your definition of truth is may vary. But by merely having faith in something higher than yourself you are in control of how you chose to view life instead of life choosing how you view it. Why do you want outside circumstances and events to chose how you feel and how you make your decisions. Shouldn't your heart and faith do this for you.
If you are living in a place where there is war and death all around you how do you survive? With your faith. If you are constantly being kicked while you are down what are you going to do to get back up again? Some people do not chose to get back up they are the ones who have no faith. They are the ones who let circumstance and life chose how they feel and live. But if they were to have a healthy faith system within them they would be able to get back up every time and move forward in their faith.
So what if you do not have a faith system developed and you realize your response truly is what controls your happiness in life? You then need to sit down and decide what it is you believe in. You need to find your heart and what it truly believes in. It does not have to be a symbol or a religion or even an entity. It just needs to be something that comes from your heart and that you feel at the deepest level of who you are. You can make it up but as long as you believe in it and it is true and of pure intent it will get you through the hardest of times. It will get you through those times because your response will be positive when life deals you a challenging hand. It will get you through the tough times because your response is 90% of how you respond to life and you have chosen to follow it from your heart. Your religion, your beliefs, your views on life do not matter to me nor should they matter to the person standing next to you but matters is how you chose to express them. Be true to yourself and live life from the heart. You will never fail if you are true to who you are and you live your faith, whatever that faith may be.

Saturday, August 14, 2010

Be A Fool


The one who is the fool is the one who is truly free in life.
I believe one of the toughest lessons for some people to learn is how to be vulnerable. What does vulnerable mean anyway? According to dictionary.com it either means capable of or susceptible to being wounded or hurt or playing Bridge and having won one of the games of a rubber. I have no idea what the second one means but I do understand why its important to be susceptible to being wounded or hurt. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying setting yourself up for disaster so you can be hurt what I'm saying is I know why allowing yourself to be vulnerable is important.
Lets take this common scenario for instance. Two friends Marie and Tanya are sitting in a coffee shop chatting about their love life or lack there of. Marie has had a rough time with her boyfriend and has recently broken up and Tanya hasn't dated anyone is months because her last relationship was so bad. Marie is asking Tanya if she'd like to go for a girls night out and Tanya is apprehensive summing up all men to be dogs. Yes, this is a common scenario! Tanya is scared! Her heart was broken. So was Marie's but she is living from the perspective where she is going to get back out there and have a good time. She realizes that if she sits back and lives in fear of being heart broken again or fear that she will just have the same thing happen that always happens she will lose out on life. Yes she won't have her heart broken but guess what she also won't experience the joys of love. So what if the love ends some day! Change is good! Yes it hurts! Sometimes a lot! Sometimes so much so you feel like you will never be able to love another! But why would you chose to limit your life just because of fear?
Being vulnerable, capable of or susceptible to being wounded or hurt, means you go out and experience life for all that its worth. When you fall you get back up again. Which life would you rather live one where you experienced everything and enjoyed yourself fully even at the price of heart break, or one where you were too scared to move forward and try anything new. One were change was the devil and you were scared of being in hell? I think I know which one I would chose.
Being vulnerable allows one true freedom from fear. You are limitless in life if you allow, trust, and have faith. You will be truly free. Being free does have a price. The price is allowing whatever life deals you to happen and not feeling the need to control or stop it. Change is inevitable either go with it or against it. But I guarantee those who go with it will be much happier in the end. If were are all going to die someday wouldn't you want to die happy?

Thursday, August 12, 2010

Looking past Corporate America and the illusion of the 'American Dream'


This article is not going to say what you want to hear this article is going to say what needs to be heard. As Americans we live for the idea of fulfilling the "American Dream". The key word in that quote is 'dream', the misleading part of that quote is 'American'. The "American Dream" is one big illusion it should be called the "Human Dream" because all humans want the same things from life. We want to be financially secure, we want to travel and see the world, we want to be free to come and go as we please, and we want the choice to do and be what we want to be. In Corporate America has capitalized on the human dream as well as everything else in our reality! They made it the "American Dream" so they can have control over a large nation of people from all over the world. We are one big melting pot and we are all from somewhere and because Corporate America has us believing we are free in America to reach for the American Dream they are the in complete control. We are not free. We are not invincible. We are not the richest nation in the world. Corporate America is.
While we try to reach for this so called dream we are becoming greedier and more ego oriented than any other time in history. The more we reach for our dream the more we put corporate America in control. If we don't have our TV, our cell phones, our fast food restaurants, our gyms, our air conditioning, our lights, our swimming pools, our airplanes, then we are lost! If we took away corporate America we would have nothing.
DING DING DING! We will have nothing! That is our problem we constantly want more. Once we have achieved something we want the next bigger and better thing and we are never happy. I am not writing an article about things you do not already know. We all know this already! We are all aware of the game. We are becoming aware of it because our nation is in the state of disaster! Corporate America got greedy and who has to pay for it? Hmmmm
Now that the dream has been popped the trickledown effect is taking a devastating toll on everyday people. We want everything to be ok again. We want everything to be safe. We want to go back to sleep and keep dreaming. Nope too late you have already been slapped in the face with a reality check.
So now that we are wide awake and can see what is going on how do we shake ourselves out of this "Spiritual 9/11 emergency"? We know no other way to survive! We only know what the media and corporate America has trained and conditioned up to know and believe. What do we do? There is only one thing we can do. Have compassion.
Have compassion?! You mean we have to stand here and have compassion while millions of Americans and people all over the world are being screwed by millions of selfish Americans?! YES!
This morning I had the humbling experience of being screwed once again by a corporate bank. I have had many cases where this happened and I have seen many others around me going through similar things. Banking and most businesses used to be about the customer. Help the customer the customer is always right we want to keep the customer happy! Where did that go? Out the window once the banks and other businesses started feeling the shake of a financially unstable nation. Everyone is about getting their head back above water right now and no one cares how they are hurting the other person. It’s just one big giant circle of screwing each other. So how do I say this was a humbling experience? I had no power in the situation and nothing else to turn to except my faith. I was mistreated and spoken to very condescendingly. When a person is in strife and struggling the last thing they need is to be treated in this manner. Why kick a dog when he is down? I was very angry at first so much so I hung up the phone and screamed louder then I think I ever have in my life. I could not control my rage and I realized if I did not get a grip on myself that my energy was going to affect many other people and so on and so forth. It was my responsibility to control how I reacted to negativity. I had to step back and look at the situation with no emotions at all.
When I stepped back and reassessed the situation I was able to see what our world has come to. I remembered that I am just one small person in a very big world and my anger wasn't going to do anyone good. How am I going to make things better?! I have to have compassion and realize that everything happens for a reason. I can see what is happening because I allowed myself to step back. Everyone is feeling the horrible effects of what our nation and world has become and I am no one special I am not alone but how I chose to deal with it is a whole different story. I chose to have compassion. I am choosing to send love out to the world instead of anger. The lady on the phone was only reacting to hundreds of other people who have had the same problem. That lady has to conform to her corporate job or she will not have food on her table to make her "American Dream" come true. And since I cannot diminish the American dream for an entire nation I must have compassion that people do not like change and are having trouble dealing with our world as it is becoming. I must be the change I wish to see in the world. I must have compassion and be light instead of rage, anger, bitter hatred, and darkness. I did not deny that I felt these emotions. I went through them step by step and released them the only way I knew how but when I was done I allowed myself to love again.
We will only make a difference in the world if we change within ourselves. We will only change this world if we can stare into the darkness and still see the light. Remember when you were a kid and you were outside when it was really really dark. You weren't able to see well at all but you knew your friends were out there and you wanted to be too? Do you remember staring really hard into the dark night and before you knew it your eyes adjusted and you could see almost as clear as day you just had to get used to the darkness. That is what we need to do now. We need to stare into the darkness until we can see just as clear as we do in the light. We must live within the light as darkness surrounds us because it is the only way our world will be able to withstand the challenges we have upon us and that are yet to come!

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Your Task is Not To Seek For Love...

A Wise Soul Once Said...
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” Rumi

Jalaludin Rumi was a mystic poet who had the most elegant way of sharing his connection to the divine. With his poetic words Rumi has been able to remind the world what love really is. The rest of us are all here on a mission to find love and when we discover Rumi we suddenly feel we have unlocked a secret door to the answers. What Rumi is trying to say in his famous quote above is that we do not go through all this pain for nothing. It is the pain that teaches us what love is and what love is not. Those who feel the deepest are the ones who understand the clearest but because of the society we live in we often question our sanity. We all have the answers and we all have built walls upon walls to hide us from them. The more we search for the answers the more walls we build. Our focus should not be on looking for answers to finding our love but tearing down the walls we have built that will not allow true love in.
If each and every person stopped blaming someone or something else on why love is not felt in their life they will realize that love is existing right there inside themselves. If we all could turn off the noise, the tapes, and the badgering words from the outside world for only 5 minutes we would be able to hear the heart of love beating inside us. Love exists! Its not hiding and its not a trick or complicated question. You merely have to tear down your walls and turn off all the world around you and see it with open arms. You know how we all have this image of God reaching down and loving us unconditionally? You can see him not caring of all the sins and crazy thoughts, emotions, or actions you have experiences and he just reaches down and gives you a big hug and all the problems of the world melts away?
That is what you need to do to yourself. You need to find that place within you were you can let the rest of the world go and reach your hand down and hug yourself unconditionally! For you and God are one and if God is capable of loving you then you are capable of loving you too. If you are capable of loving yourself then you are capable of living a life free of pain and complications. Life suddenly seems simple. Because it is.

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Monday, August 9, 2010

Your INTENT controls your life.



What is intent?

Intent is the actual feeling you have when you have a thought. If your intent is not properly expressed it will create obstacles, dysfunctional habits, and pain. Living in accordance with your intent will literally solve all your problems. Let’s explore this a little further.

How can living from your true intent really solve all your problems?

You are invited to a party of someone who you firmly dislike. You feel obligated to go because all of your friends seem to like this person and you do not want to be left out or frowned upon for not going. The party requires you to pay a cover at the door of $10 and everyone is bringing a gift.

Let’s look at what happens if we do not follow our intent first.

It’s Saturday and you wake up excited it’s the weekend. You have been so exhausted from the long week and extra hours you put in at work. All you want to do is relax and enjoy yourself. Suddenly you remember that everyone is going to Jack’s birthday party at Club Innuendo and your heart sinks. Jack is the last person you want to spend your Saturday night with, he is always cursing at waitresses and making racial jokes and remarks about people when they aren’t around. He is not a nice person and you do not want to waste your hard earned money on him.

The phone rings and it’s your best friend Sally asking if you are going to the party tonight? You contemplate telling her no because Jack is an ass but you say yes because you know she is going and you do not want her to be upset with you. Sally gets all excited and hangs up. The day drags on you drag yourself to the store to buy Jack a gift and spend all afternoon trying to find something cheap but acceptable. When you finally get home you sit down at the computer procrastinating to get ready. It’s now one hour until the party and you haven’t even showered yet and you do not even want to go. You think of all kinds of reasons to cancel and you cannot find a good enough one and decide to get in the shower and suck it up anyway.

You take your time getting ready and show up to the party an hour later than all your friends. Throughout the evening you are disgusted being there and just want to go home. The drinks are overpriced and Jack is being an ass and you can’t believe no one is saying anything to him about it. Finally the club is closing and you go home relieved it’s finally over. You sleep in the next day and waste the day away drained from a long evening out. At least your friends aren’t mad at you. Good thing no one told Jack how rude he was it may have spoiled his night.

It’s all over now and you sigh relief. How do you really feel?

Now let’s change things a bit and make life a lot easier.

It’s Saturday and you wake up excited it’s the weekend. You have been so exhausted from the long week and extra hours you put in at work. All you want to do is relax and enjoy yourself. Suddenly you remember that everyone is going to Jack’s birthday party at Club Innuendo and your heart sinks. Jack is not a nice guy and you do not want to go.
The phone rings and it’s your best friend Sally asking you if you are going to the party. Sally seems very excited and cannot wait for the evening. You tell Sally that you do not really care for Jack because he isn’t the nicest person to be around and you do not really want to spend your only day off celebrating someone’s birthday you do not even like. Sally understands and tries to convince you to go anyway but you explain to her that you will hang out with her Sunday and for her to go enjoy herself at the party.

Look at how much pain you saved yourself! You did not spend an entire day trying to buy a gift for someone you do not like instead you took your dog for a walk at the park and treated yourself to a movie you have been excited to see. Your friend Sally came over the next day and you went to lunch and you heard all about Jack’s party and how he ended up being escorted out for being overly obnoxious with the waitresses.

Now how do you feel?

This scenario can be played out a million times over with any seemingly complicated situation but as long as you follow your hearts true desires and stay true to yourself and not worry what others think you will be the winner in the end.

As the mystic Osho said be courageous enough to take responsibility for who you are and live your truth!